Love and Respect Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Love and Respect is Being Recommended to Coerce Women into BDSM Relationships

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 2, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Can we please stop pretending that Love & Respect empowers women? I get the best stuff from readers who send me links, etc.. And this weekend a male reader, who has been doing some research into domestic violence, sent me his notes after watching a YouTube video...

Even IF Women Want Love More than Respect–Is That a Good Thing?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 16, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

We’ve all heard the trope that men need respect while women need love. It’s in the best-selling book Love & Respect, which I have critiqued copiously. And as we pointed out in a podcast on the problems with unconditional respect, the whole...

Can Research and Christian Relationship Advice Go Hand in Hand?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 17, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Why is it that so many Christian books steer clear of actual research? Today’s post is a little self-serving (well, maybe a lot) because we’re about to close our latest survey for women, and we’d love about 1000 more responses today! So if...

The POWER and STATISTICS Podcast! Science Shouldn’t Be That Hard

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 1, 2021 | Podcasts

Let’s talk power, science, and statistics! They say that 68% of statistics are made up on the spot–and unfortunately, when you look at the way many of us evangelicals handle stats, it would be easy to believe it. Today we’re taking a bit of a...

An Open Letter to Evangelical Marriage Authors, Influencers and Speakers about Toxic Marriage Teaching

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 26, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

To my regular blog readers: This is something that I needed to say, and the place to publish it where it will get seen the most is right here on the blog. So excuse me for injecting more discussion of toxic marriage teaching into the blog! I thought, though, that this...

Why 20,000 Women Matter

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 26, 2021 | Sexual Intimacy

When we follow Jesus, Jesus’ teachings don’t harm us. That is a foundational principle of the Christian life–Jesus is the Good Shepherd. He hears our cry. He protects us. He loves us. He leads us to still waters. When we follow Jesus, then, we should...