Love and Respect Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

It’s Time to Hold Teachers Accountable for How They Treat the Sheep

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 22, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

In the evangelical church, too many of our books, resources and pastors spread messages that we now know are harmful–and we don’t have a way to stop it. Last year, we conducted a survey of 20,000 predominantly Christian women to see if any of the...

The Problem with How Children’s Bibles Mess Up the Story of Adam and Eve

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 1, 2021 | Parenting Small Children, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Joanna, who is the mom of two littles, has had a pet peeve for years about how baby Bibles and kids’ Bibles mess up the story of Adam and Eve. I asked on Facebook last week for some pictures of how your baby/children’s Bible handled the story, and...

3 Reasons Christian Teaching to Women Makes Direct Communication Sound Like a Sin

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 10, 2021 | Emotional Connection

Do gendered teachings in the church make direct communication harder? We’re in the middle of our series on direct communication–why direct communication is hard; what direct communication looks like; why direct communication feels mean, but isn’t....

Love and Respect is Being Recommended to Coerce Women into BDSM Relationships

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 2, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Can we please stop pretending that Love & Respect empowers women? I get the best stuff from readers who send me links, etc.. And this weekend a male reader, who has been doing some research into domestic violence, sent me his notes after watching a YouTube video...

Even IF Women Want Love More than Respect–Is That a Good Thing?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 16, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

We’ve all heard the trope that men need respect while women need love. It’s in the best-selling book Love & Respect, which I have critiqued copiously. And as we pointed out in a podcast on the problems with unconditional respect, the whole...

Can Research and Christian Relationship Advice Go Hand in Hand?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 17, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Why is it that so many Christian books steer clear of actual research? Today’s post is a little self-serving (well, maybe a lot) because we’re about to close our latest survey for women, and we’d love about 1000 more responses today! So if...