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PODCAST: Connection Not Punishment: A Better Way to Parent feat. Wendy Snyder

by | May 12, 2022 | Parenting Small Children, Podcasts | 5 comments

PODCAST: Connection Not Punishment: A Better Way to Parent feat. Wendy Snyder

What if discipline and spanking aren’t synonyms? 

What if there was a much more effective way of disciplining your kids where you connect with their heart and it actually BUILDS your relationship?

Let’s continue our awesome talk with Wendy Snyder from Fresh Start Families today! 

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Timeline of the Podcast

1:10 Wendy joins the podcast!
2:50 Explaining Gentle Parenting
7:00 Gentle Parenting in action
14:30 Sheila’s experience with a tough child
20:45 Emotions are not the problem
24:00 Example for tween parenting
34:15 Strong willed children
44:30 Wendy walks through parenting advice for Rebecca
55:00 Special update + closing announcements

Main Segment: Gentle Parenting Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Say No!

In fact, as Wendy says, she likely says “no” more often! But the point is that you’re connecting with your child emotionally, building a secure attachment, and parenting out of that relationship.

Just like God works with us! It’s such a better way to parent than spanking, and there’s so much research that this actually works. Christians need to get behind this, because to me, this looks like the very heart of Jesus far more than spanking your kids to force them to do what you want them to do.

This was a REALLY fun conversation, and at the end, Rebecca asked for advice for an issue she’s having with Alex not taking off his shoes when he comes in from playing in the backyard. Wendy gave her some tips, and then Rebecca shows us an update!

Wendy Snyder is a Positive Parenting Teacher & Family Coach, helping families parent with great purpose and intention by creating healthy, respectful & cooperative relationships. She is a Certified Parent Educator of Redirecting Children’s Behavior (RCB) and an advocate for families.

Wendy Snyder

Fresh Start Families

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Sheila is determined to help Christians find BIBLICAL, HEALTHY, EVIDENCE-BASED help for their marriage. And in doing so, she's turning the evangelical world on its head, challenging many of the toxic teachings, especially in her newest book The Great Sex Rescue. She’s an award-winning author of 8 books and a sought-after speaker. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila works with her husband Keith and daughter Rebecca to create podcasts and courses to help couples find true intimacy. Plus she knits. All the time. ENTJ, straight 8

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  • A2bbethany says:
    May 12, 2022 at 11:46 am

    So I already do about 80% of this style already and just didn’t know it had an official category.
    I focus alot on empathy for my toddler, because when I was little, nobody ever taught me how to handle emotions.
    Especially right now! I have moments where her touching me enrages me. And she’s absorbed some of that anger. So I have to work on now de-escalating both of us.
    normally hormones don’t effect my emotions. But this pregnancy and pp have at times! So I’m not blaming her at all right now but trying to restore what my tantrums burned.

    Unfortunately because she’s potty training, unless I want to erase progress, nobody else can watch her. Even daddy has been tempted and put her back in diapers. Which adds more stress because she’s only got the basics down. Not really the clothes yet, and no success with underpants.

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    • Eliza says:
      May 13, 2022 at 12:19 pm

      You may not need or want this, but this is your permission to quit potty training for now if you want. It sounds like it might be adding a lot of stress when you already have a lot going on.

      I’m just saying this because I wish I had quit when I was trying to potty train my oldest. I thought I should keep going once started and also thought I needed her trained because her younger brother had just been born. It was probably two years in which she was 85% potty trained but still had accidents once or twice a day. Having two in diapers is much less stressful than one in diapers and one having random accidents. I vowed I would never potty train again. My next three all ditched diapers only when they insisted on it, and it was virtually effortless on my part and over within a week or two, consistent regardless of caretakers, and they were all fully trained by three.

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  • Codec says:
    May 12, 2022 at 2:18 pm

    This reminds me of To Sir With Love.

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  • R says:
    May 12, 2022 at 8:58 pm

    So… What do you do if you 1) completely and utterly screwed this up and your kids are already grown, and 2) your spouse still wouldn’t be on board with this anyway, so you can’t even apologize collectively for the atmosphere of the home? I have so many regrets.

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    • Sheila Wray Gregoire says:
      May 13, 2022 at 7:39 am

      I think you can talk to your adult children anyway? Even if your spouse doesn’t agree? You have your own relationship with your adult kids, and your spouse has his. You’re allowed to have a relationship with your kids.

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