Can you feel sexy in the underwear that you wear?

I’m on a mission this month to help us all reclaim our lingerie drawers and choose items that help us feel sexy!

Every Wednesday in the month of August we’re going to be talking about bringing sexy back, and last week I wrote about how to choose lingerie that makes you feel good. The point of that post was to make sure that you had items that made you feel good that you would actually wear–not just the anniversary items that come off in 30 seconds, but things you wear to bed at night that look attractive and are comfortable, and underwear that you wear on a daily basis that makes you feel good. Today I thought we’d focus more on underwear, and next week we’ll turn to bras.

And this post does contain affiliate links as I try to show you the different types of underwear.

First, some terminology that can help us in choosing underwear!

The five different cuts of panties for women

Underwear comes in all sorts of different styles, or cuts, where the shape is different. As I began to look at all of these, I realized that I didn’t even know what they all were! So let’s take a look.

1. Boy shorts (also called “boy-cut panties”)

When you hear “boy shorts” you may not think that these would be flirty and sexy, but all this means is that the underwear are more shaped like shorts. These are a full-coverage option that are still low-waisted. Here’s an example of some cute lace boy shorts:

BoyShort Panties - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

Find these boyshorts here.

ir?t=sheilawrayg00 20&language=en US&l=li3&o=1&a=B06XH5SFR6 - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and ComfortableThese can be good for limiting underwear lines under dresses and skirts if you get seamless boyshorts without needing to wear a thong. Also, since there is more side coverage, it’s more likely to lie flat when you have a pair that fits correctly. This is a really great option for women who want to have a bit more coverage with their underwear in order to feel comfortable and contained.

A problem with boy shorts is that women with fuller behinds can often feel that these just end up becoming thicker “bum floss” than other underwear cuts since they have so much more fabric but still can ride up on women with rounder bottoms. These can be fantastic for both plus-sized and smaller women with more subtle curves, but if you have a very round bum you may end up with a lot of wedgies.

Briefs

Briefs come in multiple versions, which is where it gets complicated. So let’s talk about each:

2. Classic Briefs (sometimes called “high waisted briefs”)

This is the kind of cut that often is limited to just being seen as “granny panties” like this:

Granny Panties - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

But that’s not all classic briefs can be. Classic briefs sit at around the natural waist and offer full coverage of the bum. You can get classic briefs in all sorts of colours, fabrics, and patterns and they can be really cute! Especially if you like that comfy-lounging-at-home look! 

ir?t=sheilawrayg00 20&language=en US&l=li3&o=1&a=B00G7FZVTM - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and ComfortableIf you like to wear high-waisted clothes or dresses and tunics that come in at your natural waist, getting classic cuts and high-waisted underwear can help reduce panty lines at the hips. If, however, you tend to wear lower-rise pants, these may ride a little too high and will be very evident whenever you bend over!

Women with rounder behinds may find briefs in general far more comfortable than lower-rise options because they have more fabric available to cover the bum, resulting in less bum flossing or riding up! Due to their high-waisted nature, classic briefs in particular can be incredibly helpful for women who struggle to find underwear that actually makes them feel covered and doesn’t cause unwanted rolls or pantylines around the hips.

Here are some great ones from Amazon:

Classic Briefs - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

See those panties, and other classic briefs, here.

3. Hipster briefs 

These are briefs (full-coverage underwear) that sit at the hips instead of the natural waist. That’s it! The only difference is how low these ride! I’ve chosen some from Amazon here to show you that are 100% cotton, but also have a thick waistband to encourage them to stay in place:

Hipster Briefs  - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

See these, and other Hipster briefs, here.

4. Bikini briefs

Bikini briefs sit very low–below the hip bone–and often just cover the top of the behind, often with a little bit of a “crack” peeking out. They often come quite high up the leg as well, and are meant for minimal coverage. Some bikini briefs come entirely in spandex or elastic material, and the benefit of these is that they have no panty lines. Many bikini briefs just “hug” the bottom of your bottom, rather than using elastic around the leg openings, to cover up any potential panty lines.

Here are some basic ones from Amazon, but you can find so many different styles with lace, colour, and more. This is definitely the most plentiful panty type (though it isn’t best for many body types!)

 

Bikini Briefs - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

See these, and other choices, here.

5. Thongs

Thongs give no coverage at all to the behind, but instead have a tiny bit of material which tends to ride INSIDE the crack of your behind. The amount of coverage on the front of the thong varies–some have almost full coverage, and some have very little. Some women swear by the thong, because you can’t “fall out” of a thong if there’s really nothing to stay in. Others hate them because it feels like you have a permanent wedgie.

Two things you must be wary of with thongs: ensure they don’t cause any friction or chafing, but that the “thong” part is soft and as wide as possible. A little bit of string can sting! Second, wash yourself well after a bowel movement. Since the thong sits so close to the anus, it’s easy to transfer bacteria from that area to the vaginal and urethral area, and that can make certain diseases more likely.

 

Thongs - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

Find these, and other thongs, here.

So as you can see, there are a lot of different options for coverage! How do you decide which one is for you?

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Choosing Panty Cut Based on Body Type

We all come with with different body shapes, and I can summarize them like these:    

 

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The Rounded Body Type

Women who are rounded, or “apple” shaped, can run into problems with feeling as if their underwear is always falling down, or feeling as if there’s not enough coverage. However, if you buy the big high waisted briefs, you can also feel as if there’s just a ton of fabric that is always bunching up.

Choose high waisted underwear that have a large elastic band that sits flat against the waist. Do NOT get the flimsy underwear with the light elastic at the top, or it will start to roll down after a few wears. 

Also, try to choose underwear that’s higher on the leg, and steer clear of boy-cuts. You want high on the leg, and high in the waist, and that will help you feel more contained and structured. 

If you do want to try other underwear cuts, don’t be afraid to go up a size or two! You may find that a medium classic brief fits, but you do better in a large, or even extra large, bikini brief.

Rectangle Womans Body Type - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

The Rectangle Body Type

Rectangle women tend to be straight up and down, with a minimum of curves.

You don’t need to worry about falling out of your underwear, but you’d also like your underwear to create a few curves for you! 

Rectangles can wear any style, and in many ways they’re the easiest to fit. But bikini cuts will likely work best for you. Classic briefs or high waisted briefs will tend to have too much fabric, especially in the bottom area. Try bikini briefs, especially those that skim the bottom with all elastic fabric. 

Hourglass Womans Body Type - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

The Hourglass Body Type

Hourglass women have that lots of curves with a very defined waist!

That makes underwear often stay up much easier, because you have that waist. But you can also run into problems with a larger bottom area that needs more coverage. 

Hourglass women may have problems with underwear riding UP, so styles with more fabric at the bottom and more structure can help. Boy shorts and hipsters can look great for this body type. Bikini briefs, with little structure, could give you some issues.

Triangle Womans Body Type - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

The Triangle Body Type

Women shaped more like a triangle, or more “pear” shaped, have similar issues to Hourglass women.

They’re rounder on the bottom, but the difference is that they aren’t as balanced on the top.

You’ll find the suggestions for the hourglass type also work for you. And another suggestion: if you’re just finding that the underwear isn’t giving enough coverage, or is riding up too much, it could be a problem with size. Go up a size, and it may fit more comfortably. Sometimes the problem isn’t too much fabric; it’s not enough in the right places to sit properly.

Inverted Triangle Womans Body Type - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

The Inverted Triangle Body Type

Then there are the women who are very top heavy, but rather straight up and down on the bottom half.

If you’re shaped like this, a lot of the suggestions for the rectangle body shape will work for you. Try bikini briefs, and stay away from anything super high waisted or anything with too much coverage, because you’ll feel like you’re swimming in it. If you do choose something more classic, go DOWN a size from your typical bikini brief, since you don’t have as much to cover in the behind area!

C. Final Panty Hints–for Health and Feeling Sexy!

Finally, a few more things to remember about panties.

Let lace and colour do the work

If your body type just works best in a more classic or high waisted brief, but you don’t want to feel like you’re wearing granny panties, let lace and colour do the work! Stay away from the plain white or plain beige underwear, and choose lots of polka dots or pretty colours, like pinks and purples. And add lots of lace to the front! Be careful of lace around the leg openings, because that can chafe. But lots of lace in the front can help you feel feminine.

Marie Kondo your underwear drawer

I love an underwear drawer where I can actually see what I have! The easiest way to do that is to roll up your underwear and store it on its side, like this:

Marie Kondo Underwear Drawer - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable

Or you can fold it the way Marie Kondo does: in thirds first, and then in half, and then you store them standing up. That’s actually what I do! And it’s so fun to open the drawer in the morning and take a look at my options.

The big thing is that you want it to be pretty. You want to feel nice in your underwear, and if underwear is fun to look at in the morning, you’ll feel happier. So find a way to store it nicely!

Remember the most important part of the panty is the elastic

What determines whether a panty will ride up or not is definitely based on the amount of fabric for your body type. But elastic also plays a huge role! Flimsy elastic often wears out. When possible, choose panties with wide elastic at the top (like the hipster briefs above), or even elastic made of lace (like the thong picture above). That’s more likely to stay in place.

Wash your underwear carefully

Elastic and dryers don’t go together. If you want your underwear to last, don’t put it in the dryer. Hang it to dry. And be careful of using regular detergent on your underwear if you have sensitive skin, because that part of your body is the most sensitive. If you’re wearing expensive underwear, handwashing will help it last even 10 times longer.

Choose cotton–at least in the crotch

Cotton breathes. Other materials just don’t, no matter how pretty they look. Make sure any underwear you buy has cotton in the crotch to reduce the risk of yeast infections or UTIs.

Don’t wear underwear to bed!

My final tip about underwear? Sometimes it’s best not to wear any at all! Try to avoid panties when you sleep. Your body needs time to breathe, and wearing underwear 24 hours a day isn’t actually good for you. Choose pajamas with lots of room for give, and try going commando. It may reduce the risk of yeast infections for you!

You know, it’s funny, but after writing this post, I’ve realized that the reason I don’t like my underwear is that I buy the wrong type!

I always gravitate towards bikini briefs, but I’m now going to explore more classic briefs that are pretty. So that was actually pretty good to know!

So there you go–my complete underwear post. And now I’d love to hear from you: Do you find underwear slipping down? Riding up? Just generally uncomfortable? Have you found solutions or a style that works best? Let’s talk in the comments!

 

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SheilaSidebarAboutMe - Choosing Panties for Your Body Type--that Make You Feel Sexy and Comfortable Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 27 years and happily married for 22! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 8 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
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