Want to get more adventurous when it comes to sex, but don’t know where to start?
This month we’re focusing on practical tips for a better sex life. We’ve talked about how to try new positions, how to have sex even when it’s so hot you don’t want to touch each other, and now let’s get into one of our most frequently asked questions:
How do I get more adventurous in bed?
I want to be able to give you a lot of information and a lot of tips with this one, so here are 10 ways you can spice things up along with other articles you can read for more information and ideas!
1: Try some sexy talk!
Want to try some talk to get your spouse more “in the mood” and turn the heat up, but don’t know where to start?
I asked my male and female readers what questions would work for men and women and put it together into two different posts! Try out some of these questions and see how they go!
2: How to Tell Your Husband What You Want in Bed!
Finding that sex is becoming a bit mundane, but don’t know how to ask him for what you really want? Here’s some practical advice to help you speak up and make sex better for BOTH of you by not letting shyness or nervousness hold you back in bed!
3: Practical Ways to Get More Adventurous in Bed!
To go together with the previous post on how to tell your husband what you want in bed, here are 10 practical ways you can get more adventurous in the bedroom even if you’re shy or nervous around trying new things with sex. These will help you both learn what makes the other person tick and how to drive them crazy!
4: Try “His” and “Hers” Nights to Spice Things Up!
If you want to balance getting spicy in the bedroom with feeling like you totally respect and honour each other, “his” and “hers” nights are a great marriage tool!
One suggestion I’ve made repeatedly when I talk about how to get more adventurous in bed, or how to tell your spouse what you want, is to try “his” and “her” nights, where on those nights you get to do what one spouse wants–but on other nights you just do the regular things that you both enjoy together! This is the post that gets into the nitty-gritty of how this works and how it can inject some fun into your sex life!
5: Don’t Think You Need Erotica to Get More Adventurous
A lot of couples, when they want to get more adventurous, explore erotica or pornography to give them ideas. But this is a really unhealthy and dangerous idea, and there are tons of ways you can try new things and spice things up without using harmful materials.
Here’s some practical advice for how you can spice things up without having to use erotica!
6: Try Some Games to Spice Things Up!
Here are some great ideas on how to incorporate some games into your sex life in a safe way that turns up the heat! Check out these ideas and see which ones would work for you!
7: Try some Spicy Marriage Dares to Rev Up Your Sex Life!
If you’re looking to get more adventurous or to mix things up a bit, this is our #1 recommendation. This comes with 24 dares: 8 for her, 8 for him, and 8 for the two of you together. It focuses on helping you try new things, have some fun, but also feel closer to each other.
Each dare has its instructions and description, and you have the choice to read it ahead of time or in the moment!
How about trying “Around the World”, “I See All of You”, or “Texas Hold Em”? Or maybe “The Rocket Launcher” or “No More Cleanup in Aisle 5”?
Trying new things can sometimes be intimidating. You may not know how to ask for what you want. You may not even know what you want! But sometimes things get stale, and you know you need SOMETHING.
That’s why we made these dares. The dares make asking for new things far less awkward. And they bring more fun back to your marriage, too! Check them out!
Now it’s your turn. Keeping it classy in the comments of course, what are some of your best tips for for spouses who want to get more adventurous in bed?
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Read the rest of our Practical Sex Series:
- How to Try New Positions–Without Needing an Instructions Manual!
- How to Have Great Sex Without Air Conditioning
- How to Get More Adventurous In Bed (This one!)
- Your Guide to Choosing Lingerie (July 24)
- How to Sync Your Libidos (July 31)