Where to Find Specific Marriage Advice

I blog because I have a passion to help marriages. I try to post things that will help you with difficulties you face, and in so doing I also try to point you to God.

However, I know many of you have specific problems or are in acute turmoil. And many of you email me. I do appreciate my readers reaching out, and I do pray over each email. I’m finding, though, that the volume is just getting too much. I can’t do each of them justice.

Right now I have a backlog of about 80 emails I’m trying to answer, and I can’t keep going on like this, because I don’t want to delay in answering you, but I also can’t handle the volume. So I’m going to create a post here with answers to the most common questions that I get, through links to posts that I’ve written. I hope that this may prove handy for many of you! And please, share it on Facebook or Pin It so that others can see it.

You are more than welcome to continue to send emails, and I will certainly pray over them, and I may use some as Reader Questions of the Week (with identifying details removed). I also love hearing your stories! However, I can’t promise to reply to each one anymore. I’m sorry about that. I wish I could replicate myself, but I can’t. And so instead I try to write posts on this blog that can help as large a number of women as possible. I think that’s the best use of my time.

So I hope instead that you all find this list helpful. This will be an ongoing post, and I’ll update it periodically with new posts, so keep it handy!

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When Your Sex Life Just Isn’t Working
Hitting the “Reset Button” and Starting Over
29 Days to Great Sex–try the challenge!
Experiencing Spiritual Intimacy when You Make Love

When Your Husband is Having an Affair
Hope After you Discover Your Husband is Having an Affair
How to Stop an Emotional Affair
When Texting/Facebook Cross the Line
How to Forgive Your Husband

When You Can’t Resolve a Certain Conflict in Marriage
Understanding the Issue in Conflict
Resolving Conflict
Keeping Your Head When You’re Mad

When Sex Is Uncomfortable
Help When You’re Too Tight–Or Too Loose
When Sex Physically Hurts Because of Chronic Illness

When Sex Doesn’t Feel That Great
How to Reach Orgasm
The Pleasure Center
My Journey to the Big O
Foreplay Can be for Him, too!
Foreplay Can Be Fun

When You Have No Libido
Why You’ve got to Initiate, Baby
Libido is Use it Or Lose It
Women are Not Like Slow Cookers
Preparing for Sex Throughout the Day
How to Get Your Head in the Game
What Does 1 Corinthians 7:5 Mean?
Getting Over thinking Sex is “for him”
Why Sex Isn’t Just for Him
Why You Should Reconsider if You’re Not “In the Mood”

When Your Husband Has No Libido
Reasons Why Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex (with links to lots of follow-up posts)
What Does 1 Corinthians 7:5 Mean?

For Men: When Your Wife has No Libido
A Post to Read to Your Wife to Explain How You feel

When Your Spouse Withholds Sex
What to do When Your Spouse Withholds Sex
What Does 1 Corinthians 7:5 Mean?

When Your Husband Uses Porn
Is Porn the Same as Cheating?
How to Deal with a Husband’s Porn Use: A Man’s Perspective (great thoughts on how to get help)
Rebuilding Your Life after a Porn Addiction
Marriage VLog: When your Husband was Addicted to Porn

When You Use Porn (or erotica) and want to stop
The Effect on Women of Pornography
How to Stop Dissociation (or needing to fantasize during sex)
Why 50 Shades of Grey is Bad for Your Marriage

What Are Appropriate Sexual Boundaries (like what is it okay to do?)
What is Appropriate Sexual Release
Should Christians Use Sex Toys
Sex Shouldn’t Need Batteries
5 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage
Spicing Things up without 50 Shades of Grey
Deciding Your Boundaries
Sex Should be Mutual

When You Feel Disconnected from Your Husband and Have No Hope
Hope for Those in Troubled Marriages
Revive Your Attitude
Why Your Husband Won’t Meet Your Needs
Marital Success is a Matter of Attitude
Sometimes Marriage is Just Tough
Do You Feel Really Alone in Your Marriage (vLog)
How a Marriage Changes

When You Don’t Share a Friendship with Your Husband
Countering the Drift
Revive Your Friendship
Why Walking Together Works Wonders

Sex Once You’re a Mommy
17 Ways to Make Sex a Priority once you have Kids
Sex and Pregnancy
Sex When Your Hormones are out of Whack
Are You a Better Wife or a Better Mom?

When You Have Sexual Baggage
How to Come Alive Again
Healing from the Guilt of Your Sexual Past
Recovery for Victims of Sexual Abuse
Dealing with Your Husband’s Sexual Baggage

When You Can’t Decide about Birth Control
Birth Control Roundup

What About Teenagers?
7 Ways to Raise a Teen Who Won’t Date Too Young
What to do When You Discover Your Daughter is Having Sex
Dealing with a Depressed Teenager
Talking to Your Children about Sex

Should I Marry Him?
Four Things that Make a Guy Husband Material
Should I Marry my Boyfriend if He Uses Porn?

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