On an Unbiblical View of Suffering, Wife Abuse, and Created To Be His Helpmeet

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 28, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

One of the most damaging and unbiblical “Christian” books on marriage is Debi Pearl’s Created to Be His Helpmeet. Debi Pearl’s view of submission teaches women to allow themselves to be abused, rather than teaches women to seek God’s...

How Do You Know if You’re in an Abusive Marriage?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 24, 2017 | Abuse, Resolving Conflict

How do you know if you’re being abused? One of the hardest parts of blogging is reading so many heartbreaking emails and comments that come in from people in truly destructive marriages. I find myself wondering, why do people treat each other this way? And even...

Reader Question: What Do I Do When My Husband Lies All the Time?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 3, 2017 | Resolving Conflict

What do you do when your husband lies all the time and never keeps his promises? Every Monday I like to put up a reader question and take a stab at answering it, and here’s one from a woman in a very difficult marriage. She writes: I have been married a year and...

What if You Divorced for the Wrong Reasons?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 19, 2016 | Abuse, Tough Marriage Situations

I hold both of these truths to be self-evident: sometimes women can be verbally and emotionally abused without other people understanding the extent of it, and need to get out of that marriage; and sometimes women claim that they are verbally and emotionally abused...

A Letter to the Woman with a Controlling Husband

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 5, 2016 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Are you married to a controlling husband? I wrote a big post recently about how too often our Christian culture promotes a version of church and marriage that makes women powerless–and that this inevitably leads to abuse. Not that EVERY woman will be...

Reader Question: I Think My Sister’s Husband is Controlling/Abusive

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 4, 2014 | Abuse, Marriage

What do you do if you fear your sister is being abused (or your friend is being abused)? That’s the question I want to tackle today. Every Monday I take a stab at answering a reader question, and this one is a really sad one. A reader writes: My family and I are...