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Can You Divorce for Abuse? Our Tendency to Treat Adultery as Worse than Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 3, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Unfortunately (in my mind), there has not been consensus in the Christian world on whether or not a person is biblically justified to divorce in cases of abuse. It’s long been held that you can divorce for adultery, but not for abuse (I explained why I think...

When to Walk Away Review: How to Deal with Toxic People–and Toxic Marriages

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 29, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

When it comes to toxic people–and toxic marriages–do we have the courage to walk away? Alice had endured being married to Alex for over 20 years. She had kept trying to make the marriage better–being nice to him; keeping a nice house; studying all...

What if You Divorced for the Wrong Reasons?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 19, 2016 | Abuse, Tough Marriage Situations

I hold both of these truths to be self-evident: sometimes women can be verbally and emotionally abused without other people understanding the extent of it, and need to get out of that marriage; and sometimes women claim that they are verbally and emotionally abused...

Reader Question: If I Divorce My Husband Will I Lose My Salvation?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 4, 2016 | Theology of Marriage and Sex, Tough Marriage Situations

If you fall out of love with your husband and decide to divorce him, will you lose your salvation? Every Monday I like to post a reader question, and today’s is a heavy one from a woman who thinks she has finally found true love–just not with her husband....

Why I’m Anti-Divorce and Pro-Remarriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 16, 2015 | Tough Marriage Situations

On Tuesday I made quite a stir on Facebook when I wrote about divorce and remarriage. In regards to this post on when you should give up trying to get your ex back, I wrote: I’m having to delete a lot of comments on the blog today from people saying that divorce...

Reader Question: When Do I Give Up Trying to Get My Ex Back?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 12, 2015 | Faith, Tough Marriage Situations

When should you give up on trying to get your ex back? Every Monday I like to put up a Reader Question and take a stab at answering it. I know most of my readers are married (this is a Christian marriage blog, after all), but a lot of people in crisis marriages also...