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Emerson Eggerichs and the Gaslighting of Emotional Abuse Victims in a Sermon Series

by Connor Lindenbach | Mar 24, 2021 | Bare Marriage

Last year, I looked at some rather alarming clips from some sermons Emerson Eggerichs–the author of Love & Respect–gave where he essentially gaslighted emotional abuse victims. I was prepared to let it go–I’ve talked about it, and...

And…This is Why Abuse Flourishes. Can We Provoke Someone to Abuse?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 2, 2018 | Abuse, Resolving Conflict

When there’s abuse in marriage, are both parties to blame? Or is just the abuser to blame?I honestly wish I didn’t have to ask that question, but last week a commenter left this comment on my post about emotionally destructive marriages: I believe almost...

Reader Question: How Do I Admit to Myself that I’m Being Abused?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 30, 2017 | Abuse, Marriage, Resolving Conflict

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to admit to ourselves when we’re in an abusive marriage. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and before the month was over I wanted to share a letter that I recently received from a reader. Harvey Weinstein and...

How Do You Know if You’re in an Abusive Marriage?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 24, 2017 | Abuse, Resolving Conflict

How do you know if you’re being abused? One of the hardest parts of blogging is reading so many heartbreaking emails and comments that come in from people in truly destructive marriages. I find myself wondering, why do people treat each other this way? And even...

What if You Divorced for the Wrong Reasons?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 19, 2016 | Abuse, Tough Marriage Situations

I hold both of these truths to be self-evident: sometimes women can be verbally and emotionally abused without other people understanding the extent of it, and need to get out of that marriage; and sometimes women claim that they are verbally and emotionally abused...