waiting until marriage to have sex | To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Has My Sexual Past Doomed My Marriage?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 17, 2020 | Preparing for Marriage

If you’ve been promiscuous in the past, is your future marriage doomed? We’re in the middle of our Sex Questions You Can’t Ask Your Pastor series this month, and this week we’ve been focusing on newlywed sex questions–including our...

Let’s Talk “It’s Better to Marry Than to Burn”

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 12, 2020 | Preparing for Marriage

What does 1 Corinthians 7:9–“it is better to marry than to burn with passion”–mean? I was blown away by the comments last Friday when we were talking about the gatekeeping phenomenon that many women feel, when we think that the boy is the...

PODCAST: The Purity Culture and the Prosperity Gospel

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 25, 2019 | Podcasts, Preparing for Marriage

It’s time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! Today we did a bit of a different one. Rather than having all of our segments, we just talked about one big thing: the earthquake in Christian circles where the purity culture is falling...

Intimacy Before Marriage: It’s More Than Just Sex!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 30, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage

I’ve written at length on the blog about why we should wait until marriage for sex, and why God made sex just for marriage.But sometimes I fear that in all of our talk about saving sex for marriage we forget that the biggest sexual temptation isn’t always...

Should it be a Struggle to Not Have Sex Before You’re Married?

by Rebecca Lindenbach | May 23, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage

Should not having sex before you’re married be a struggle? We talk a lot about marriage and sex on this blog, but what about sexual temptation before you’re married? It’s Rebecca on the blog today, and I’m tackling a bit of a weird one. After...

Do We Need to Stop Using the Term “Virgin”?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 10, 2018 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

“If you get raped, does that mean you’re not a virgin anymore?” That was one of the anonymous questions asked at a small group my 17-year-old daughter was at one summer. The adults leading the discussion hemmed and hawed, saying technically, they...