waiting until marriage to have sex | To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Should it be a Struggle to Not Have Sex Before You’re Married?

by Rebecca Lindenbach | May 23, 2018 | preparing for marriage

Should not having sex before you’re married be a struggle? We talk a lot about marriage and sex on this blog, but what about sexual temptation before you’re married? It’s Rebecca on the blog today, and I’m tackling a bit of a weird one. After...

Do We Need to Stop Using the Term “Virgin”?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 10, 2018 | culture, grace, Sex

“If you get raped, does that mean you’re not a virgin anymore?” That was one of the anonymous questions asked at a small group my 17-year-old daughter was at one summer. The adults leading the discussion hemmed and hawed, saying technically, they...

Is “She Just Needs to Have Sex” an Accurate Portrayal of Women’s Sex Drives?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 25, 2018 | culture, libido

If a woman is uptight, does she just need a good “roll in the hay”, if you’ll pardon the expression? I recently watched “My Life in Ruins“, the movie with Nia Vardalos (from My Big Fat Greek Wedding fame). It’s actually kind of...

Why You Should Wait for Marriage to Have Sex

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 12, 2017 | intimacy, preparing for marriage, Sex

Why should we wait for marriage for sex? Seriously, if you had to answer that question, what’s the first thing you’d say? Many of us would reply, “Because God wants us to!” That’s what we were taught. But here’s the problem with...

Reader Question: Should You Get Married Just Because You Have a Child Together?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 2, 2017 | Parenting, preparing for marriage

Should you marry your baby’s father? That’s a question that, a century ago, wouldn’t even have been a question. If you’re pregnant, of course you should get married! But today it’s possible for a woman to raise a child on her own and not...

5 Ways to Make Sure the Purity Message Doesn’t Backfire

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 10, 2015 | Sex

Can the purity message end up backfiring, making our young people too nervous about sex? I’m actually taking a down week this week, away from my computer, but some wonderful people have agreed to step in and share some thoughts they’ve been having....