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Do You Ever Feel Rejected When Your Husband Seems to Prefer Sleep to Sex?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 13, 2021 | Libido

I wonder: since we’ve grown up believing so much that men want sex all the time, then when he doesn’t initiate sex, do women feel rejected? I’m not talking about the rejection that higher drive wives feel (that’s real, and that’s...

Are Expectations in Marriage Wrong? 3 Things You Should Expect from Your Spouse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 10, 2020 | Emotional Connection

Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? We’ve been talking about emotional maturity this month, and yesterday, as I was writing about how to have a conversation when a spouse is stonewalling, it reminded me of a post I wrote a while back about how...

Is It Wrong to Expect Things from Your Spouse?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 4, 2018 | Resolving Conflict

Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? I’m going to climb up on my soapbox for this post and just give a little bit of a rant. I hope you’ll excuse me. But I see a problem with the way that a lot of Christian teaching addresses emotional needs in...

Wifey Wednesday: What Road Are You on as a Couple?

by Rebecca Lindenbach | Jan 10, 2018 | Emotional Connection, Marriage

As the New Year is starting, are you thinking about what road you want to be on? What are your priorities, what do you want your life to look like in in 1, 5, or 10 years from now? It’s Rebecca here on the blog today, and Connor and I have been thinking about...

Wifey Wednesday: How Do You Become One Flesh?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 25, 2017 | Emotional Connection, Preparing for Marriage

What does “becoming one flesh” actually mean? It’s Wednesday, the day when we talk marriage! And today I want to talk about what “oneness” really means. When we marry, inevitably this beautiful verse is read at the wedding: And the man...

Reader Question: My Husband Doesn’t Think our Sex Life is Good Enough

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 9, 2017 | Emotional Connection, Sexual Intimacy

What do you do when your husband thinks you have a bad sex life? Every Monday I like to put up a Reader Question and take a stab at answering it. Here’s a really messy one from a woman whose husband has decided to withhold sex since their sex life was so bad:...