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Keith: It’s a Short Line from Male Power to Abuse of Women and Children

by Keith Gregoire | Apr 20, 2022 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Sheila here! Last week I published some “Fixed it for Yous” from biblical counselors which were extremely disturbing. My husband Keith was just infuriated, and asked to write his response. He’s quite passionate about this, and he’ll be...

Is Someone Stepping on Your Air Hose?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 8, 2022 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

So many women–and many men as well–honestly feel like the church is hurting them. I do not believe that it is Jesus that is hurting them, but the things that the church teaches, especially around sex and marriage, do cause harm. Our surveys have shown that...

Why Is the Church So Afraid of Women’s Voices?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 22, 2022 | Faith

Have people ever tried to silence you simply because you’re a woman? The summer when I was 16 years old, I went on a Teen Missions International team to the Philippines. It was not a good experience. While I know that some enjoyed their time with Teen Missions,...

5 Ways Hierarchy in Marriage Hurts Men, Too

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 1, 2022 | Resolving Conflict, Theology of Marriage and Sex

What if setting up marriage as a hierarchy, where men make the decisions, isn’t good for men either? We know that it can lead to problems for women (as we talked about yesterday), but what if it can hurt men too? On Tuesdays I don’t do huge posts, but...

Keith’s Views on Deconstructing the Faith–and Reconstructing Something Healthy

by Keith Gregoire | Jan 28, 2022 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Sheila here! My husband Keith’s manifesto on Wednesday about how the evangelical church has treated women went quite big, and he has one more thing he’d like to say. This all fits well in what we’re talking about this month about putting the...

What’s Wrong with Wanting to Submit to My Husband?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 27, 2022 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Most of us agree that you shouldn’t have to submit to an abusive husband. But what if you’re married to a good husband? I get lots of emails from women who believe in hierarchy in marriage, where the woman submits her will to her husband and follows his...