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One Woman Shares How Being Spanked as a Child Affected Her Sexually

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 24, 2022 | Parenting Small Children

The harm from spanking doesn’t always come from the spanking being done in anger, or by terrible parents. Sometimes the harm comes from good parents who spanked “in love”, exactly how the church taught them to. When I wrote about the harms from...

The Sexual Element in Spanking Children: Let’s Ask the Uncomfortable Questions

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 22, 2022 | Parenting Small Children

Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I’ve shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000...

We Can Heal–and Grow Towards a Healthy Faith

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 10, 2022 | Abuse, Faith

Many of us grew up with toxic faith. I just hope you know you can heal and grow! Did you all see the Humans of New York posts yesterday? Everyone was sending them to me! It was a 15-post story about a woman who “wasn’t the first preacher’s wife to...

On Spanking: When You Think You’re Following the Bible, but You’re Really Following Your Own Interpretation

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 23, 2022 | Parenting Small Children

It’s easy to use the “we’re just following the Bible!” trumpcard when debating something, and spanking proves an excellent example of how this can go awry. We’ve been talking about spanking as a method of discipline for a few weeks now,...

Spanking Fixed It For You: It’s Okay to Change Your Mind about Spanking

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 20, 2022 | Parenting Small Children

I never spanked my kids. Well, there’s a funny story about Katie, but I’ll leave that for another time. What I did do, though, was write a column in my weekly paper about twenty years ago bemoaning the fact that the Children’s Aid Society was taking...

Should Matt Chandler Be Joking about Whipping His Kids? Plus Fill Up Your Podcast Queue!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 6, 2022 | Sheila Snippets

Yesterday on the podcast we looked at the metaanalysis about spanking, and talked about gentle parenting. That metaanalysis of 160,000 children found that spanking was either neutral or negative, but not positive. Like if you parent well in other areas, you can blunt...