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Has My Sexual Past Doomed My Marriage?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 17, 2020 | Preparing for Marriage

If you’ve been promiscuous in the past, is your future marriage doomed? We’re in the middle of our Sex Questions You Can’t Ask Your Pastor series this month, and this week we’ve been focusing on newlywed sex questions–including our...

How to Awaken Love…or at Least Stop Feeling Like You’re Broken!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 15, 2020 | Abuse, Making Sex Feel Good

The title of this post may sound corny, but do you remember that verse about awakening love in Song of Solomon? Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Song of Solomon...

Our Soul Ties Series: Do You Form Soul Ties By Having Sex with Somebody?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 13, 2019 | Sexual Intimacy, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Does having sex with somebody mean that you have a soul tie with them–a spiritual bond that is hard to break? This month at To Love, Honor and Vacuum we’re doing our Wednesday series on soul ties and emotional bonds, because it’s a topic that seems...

Our Soul Ties Series: What Are Soul Ties? And Do We Need to Break Soul Ties?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 6, 2019 | Sexual Intimacy, Theology of Marriage and Sex

I often get asked if soul ties exist, and, if so, how do you break them? It’s a common enough query that brings people to the blog that I thought it would be worth exploring some of what we mean by “soul tie” for our November series, and talk about...

A True Life Story of Healing after Sexual Shame: Beauty from Ashes

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 5, 2018 | Sex

One of the things the #metoo and #churchtoo movements have highlighted is the burden of sexual shame. Sometimes that burden comes through no fault of our own–we were targeted, and we were victims. Other times shame comes because we made mistakes. But even those...

Wifey Wednesday: 5 Tips to Putting Your Sexual Baggage Behind You

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 7, 2018 | Sex

How do you leave the guilt of your sexual past behind you? Can you escape the baggage from past lovers and move forward in freedom? Today we’re looking at how to deal with misperceptions about sex. And let’s face it–a lot of those misperceptions come...