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The Sexual Abuse Questions Podcast: Pointing to Recovery

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 1, 2020 | Podcasts

Sexual abuse is one of the most damaging and traumatic things a person can go through. Warning: This podcast and post may be disturbing to people with sex abuse in their past, but we didn’t go into great detail about anything specific . God designed sex to...

The Let’s Prevent Bad Marriages Podcast!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 3, 2020 | Podcasts, Preparing for Marriage

What if someone you love is about to make a bad marriage choice? Or what if your girlfriend/boyfriend isn’t treating your relationships or your issues seriously? We’re tackling two complicated reader questions on the podcast today! Listen in: Listen...

How to Awaken Love…or at Least Stop Feeling Like You’re Broken!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 15, 2020 | Abuse, Making Sex Feel Good

The title of this post may sound corny, but do you remember that verse about awakening love in Song of Solomon? Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Song of Solomon...

Reader Question: Do I Have to Have Sex or Do Sexual Things if Sex Grosses Me Out?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 18, 2019 | Libido

What do you do if sex is very distasteful, and you’d rather not be sexual in your marriage at all? Last Friday I wrote a post about how withholding sex in your marriage is not a good idea (it’s better to deal with WHY you’re withholding sex). And...

Andy Savage, Who Assaulted a Girl in His Youth Group, Should Not Have a New Church

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 30, 2019 | Abuse, Faith

So Andy Savage, a former megachurch pastor from Memphis, is now starting a new church, despite being disqualified from ministry. I have had a tremendously busy week. Our grandson was born exactly a week ago, and we just got back from being with Rebecca and Connor (and...

How to Reconnect with Your Body if You’re an Abuse Survivor (or Trauma Survivor)

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 4, 2019 | Abuse

When you’re abused, a common defense mechanism is dissociation–when you mentally “flee” your body and try to be anywhere but here. That helps you live through trauma. But it also creates a whole heap of problems down the road when you’re...