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Intimacy Before Marriage: It’s More Than Just Sex!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 30, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage

I’ve written at length on the blog about why we should wait until marriage for sex, and why God made sex just for marriage.But sometimes I fear that in all of our talk about saving sex for marriage we forget that the biggest sexual temptation isn’t always...

Finally Reaching Orgasm Part 2: How One Reader Had a Breakthrough

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 13, 2018 | Making Sex Feel Good

What’s the next step if you’ve learned everything you can about how to have great sex, but your body isn’t getting with the program? Yesterday I shared the first half of a post that a reader sent me (who wishes to remain anonymous) about her journey...

Do We Need to Stop Using the Term “Virgin”?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 10, 2018 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

“If you get raped, does that mean you’re not a virgin anymore?” That was one of the anonymous questions asked at a small group my 17-year-old daughter was at one summer. The adults leading the discussion hemmed and hawed, saying technically, they...

Reader Question: How Do I Get Over the Shame of Losing my Virginity?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 26, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage, Sex

If you lose your virginity in a one-night stand, how do you deal with the shame you feel? That’s a question I get quite a bit. And when I was writing The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, one of the themes that kept popping up in my surveys was women saying...

Did You Survive “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 3, 2017 | Parenting Teenagers, Preparing for Marriage

Like many parents of 90s kids, I once embraced I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Written by then-21-year-old Joshua Harris, it was all about how “dating” is dangerous and will wreck your ability to have a good marriage. Instead, what we should aim for is...

7 Things the Purity Culture Failed to Teach Me

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 29, 2017 | Sex

Growing up in the purity culture people can learn the wrong lessons about sex–and God. Here are 7 things one woman had to unlearn once she married: How can we raise our kids to have a healthy view of sex–and not perpetuate some of the unhealthy aspects of...