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Do You Need to Get Angry at What Purity Culture Stole from You?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 15, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Anger is not always a bad thing–and some of us would benefit from a bit of it! i’m just back from a weekend knitting retreat with my mom. About 60 knitters gathered at an inn close to where I live for some knitting classes and show and tell and just great...

Untangling Faith, Deconstruction, and My Story

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 16, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Deconstruction, as a term, has become really complicated to understand. Rebecca and i talked about it in a recent podcast, and it’s one of those terms that is used differently by different people. But it boils down to this: You recognize that some...

Purity Culture, Consent, and More! Some Podcasts to Fill up Your Day

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 1, 2021 | Sheila Snippets

For the last six months, I’ve been recording at least 3 other podcasts a week–besides my own! It’s been super exhausting, but super fun. I did need to pay attention to the exhaustion factor, though, and so Keith and I are camping for two and a half...

Do You Feel Like All Men Should Find You Attractive?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 28, 2021 | Emotional Connection

Did purity culture make you sexualize all relationships with the opposite sex? We’ve been talking a lot about youth group lately–what youth group was like before purity culture infiltrated it; how porn may be the new purity culture. We talked last week...

Is Porn the New Purity Culture?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers, Pornography

Is the next thing that’s going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we’re treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you’re...

What Youth Group Was Like Before Purity Culture

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 26, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

I remember a conversation with my husband around 1992 about how the church was totally on the right track! We had dealt with some weird televangelism scandals and they were largely behind us. Women’s gifts were being used. A lot of the things that culture made...