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Purity Culture, Consent, and More! Some Podcasts to Fill up Your Day

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 1, 2021 | Sheila Snippets

For the last six months, I’ve been recording at least 3 other podcasts a week–besides my own! It’s been super exhausting, but super fun. I did need to pay attention to the exhaustion factor, though, and so Keith and I are camping for two and a half...

Do You Feel Like All Men Should Find You Attractive?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 28, 2021 | Emotional Connection

Did purity culture make you sexualize all relationships with the opposite sex? We’ve been talking a lot about youth group lately–what youth group was like before purity culture infiltrated it; how porn may be the new purity culture. We talked last week...

Is Porn the New Purity Culture?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers, Pornography

Is the next thing that’s going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we’re treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you’re...

What Youth Group Was Like Before Purity Culture

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 26, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

I remember a conversation with my husband around 1992 about how the church was totally on the right track! We had dealt with some weird televangelism scandals and they were largely behind us. Women’s gifts were being used. A lot of the things that culture made...

When Church Goes Backwards: Why We Should Apologize to Millennials

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 20, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

Yesterday was my daughter Rebecca’s 26th birthday, and it occurred to me how much her life and my life have differed when it comes to church. Here’s my favourite picture of her, taken this fall with her son: I was supposed to write something else...

To the Wife Who Feels Like God is Punishing Her for Having Sex Before Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 19, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Have you ever felt like God is punishing you, and your sex life in marriage, because of sexual sin before marriage? (I was going to run a post today where people could get our pre-order bonuses for The Great Sex Rescue. It’s coming tomorrow! Just some last...