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On Modesty: We Shouldn’t Sacrifice Teen Girls’ Well-Being for Adult Men’s Comfort

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 13, 2022 | Parenting Teenagers

A basic principle in the Old Testament is actually quite a simple one: People of God don’t sacrifice children. Read through the prophets, and you’ll hear the judgment against nations that sacrifice their kids to Molech, or make children “walk through...

What Does Treating Women with Respect Look Like?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 21, 2022 | Parenting Teenagers

Can we stop objectifying women and treat us like whole people, made in the image of God? We’ve been talking about putting the “Christ” back in Christian marriage this month, and part of that is by treating women as the Imago Dei (made in the image of...

What Were You Wearing When Teenage You Was Harrassed in Church?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

Tragically, sexual harrassment, leering, and groping behaviour is all too common in churches–especially evangelical ones. Why “especially evangelical ones”? Because evangelical ones often stress that “boys will be boys”, “all men...

(Your) Final Words on the Stumbling Block Debate about Lust and Modesty

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 4, 2020 | Parenting Teenagers

Yesterday on the podcast I shared about how “don’t be a stumbling block” is a toxic message to give to young girls about modesty. It all stemmed from a discussion on Facebook where I was presenting a scenario where a 13-year-old girl was blamed for...

PODCAST: Can We Please Put the Lust and Modesty Debate Behind Us for Good?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 3, 2020 | Parenting Teenagers, Podcasts

I am very, very tired of the “don’t be a stumbling block” argument when it comes to modesty for girls. I know that this is a very widespread debate, and I have talked about it before in two main posts: My 40% Modesty Rule Why Don’t Be a...

Is “Bouncing Your Eyes” So You Don’t Lust Respectful to Women?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 25, 2020 | Pornography

Is the antidote to lust that men learn the “bouncing your eyes” technique, as advocated in Every Man’s Battle? We’ve been talking about new ways to think about lust this week, with Keith’s post yesterday (and our podcast coming up...