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Is “Bouncing Your Eyes” So You Don’t Lust Respectful to Women?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 25, 2020 | Pornography

Is the antidote to lust that men learn the “bouncing your eyes” technique, as advocated in Every Man’s Battle? We’ve been talking about new ways to think about lust this week, with Keith’s post yesterday (and our podcast coming up...

Are You Inadvertently Raising Your Sons to Have Problems with Lust?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 25, 2019 | Parenting Teenagers

Every time, without fail, when I try to talk about men’s struggles with lust the conversation turns to how women, and especially teenage girls, dress. Basically it goes something like this: Well, of course men shouldn’t lust, but girls should also watch...

PODCAST: Noticing, Lusting, and the Yoga Pants Debate

by Rebecca Lindenbach | Aug 15, 2019 | Podcasts, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Are yoga pants actually pants?Maybe that’s the wrong question! It’s time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast!I hope you all will listen, but if you don’t have time, I’ll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can...

Modesty Revisited, Wedding Vows, and More!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 11, 2019 | Podcasts

Do we look at modesty all wrong? Is orgasm really necessary? It’s time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! And we’re dealing with a whole lot of different things today! I hope you all will listen, but if you don’t have time,...

My 40% Modesty Rule: A Better Way to Look at How to Dress

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 25, 2019 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

What does it mean to be modest? What are proper modesty rules? I’ve been talking all month about how the message that “men lust all the time so women have to have sex to stop men from lusting” is so dangerous and unbiblical. Yet in far too many...

10 Trends in the Purity Culture that I’m Watching

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 20, 2018 | Sex

The purity culture has been with us for a while–but some super interesting things are happening. And I want to share with you 10 trends that I’m keeping a watch on. But first–what is the purity culture? It’s hard to define exactly, but...