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What Were You Wearing When Teenage You Was Harrassed in Church?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

Tragically, sexual harrassment, leering, and groping behaviour is all too common in churches–especially evangelical ones. Why “especially evangelical ones”? Because evangelical ones often stress that “boys will be boys”, “all...

(Your) Final Words on the Stumbling Block Debate about Lust and Modesty

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 4, 2020 | Parenting Teenagers

Yesterday on the podcast I shared about how “don’t be a stumbling block” is a toxic message to give to young girls about modesty. It all stemmed from a discussion on Facebook where I was presenting a scenario where a 13-year-old girl was blamed for...

PODCAST: Can We Please Put the Lust and Modesty Debate Behind Us for Good?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 3, 2020 | Parenting Teenagers, Podcasts

I am very, very tired of the “don’t be a stumbling block” argument when it comes to modesty for girls. I know that this is a very widespread debate, and I have talked about it before in two main posts: My 40% Modesty Rule Why Don’t Be a...

Is “Bouncing Your Eyes” So You Don’t Lust Respectful to Women?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 25, 2020 | Pornography

Is the antidote to lust that men learn the “bouncing your eyes” technique, as advocated in Every Man’s Battle? We’ve been talking about new ways to think about lust this week, with Keith’s post yesterday (and our podcast coming up...

Are You Inadvertently Raising Your Sons to Have Problems with Lust?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 25, 2019 | Parenting Teenagers

Every time, without fail, when I try to talk about men’s struggles with lust the conversation turns to how women, and especially teenage girls, dress. Basically it goes something like this: Well, of course men shouldn’t lust, but girls should also watch...

PODCAST: Noticing, Lusting, and the Yoga Pants Debate

by Rebecca Lindenbach | Aug 15, 2019 | Podcasts, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Are yoga pants actually pants?Maybe that’s the wrong question! It’s time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast!I hope you all will listen, but if you don’t have time, I’ll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can...