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If Your Church Makes You Feel Guilty and Miserable…Leave

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 4, 2022 | Abuse, Faith

Sometimes church is a toxic place. Not always. Not even usually! Study after study has found that religiosity actually helps people, and people who go to church tend to have better mental health, better relationships, and better lives overall. HOWEVER–and...

10 Things to Know about Old Testament Laws and Periods

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 26, 2020 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

As Christians, a lot of the cultural ideas that we get about our periods derive from Old Testament laws that called periods “unclean.” We’re finishing up our series on periods today! And I thought I’d end with something that came up repeatedly...

I Didn’t Really Care if My Sons-in-Law Were Debt-Free, Tattoo-Free Virgins

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 19, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage

I never told my daughters that they should marry virgins. I told them instead they had to marry guys who loved Jesus. And those two are not necessarily synonymous. This week Lori Alexander’s article “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos” went...

How To Not Be a Legalistic Parent

by Rebecca Lindenbach | Apr 5, 2018 | Family

Are you a legalistic parent? I sure hope you’re not! And I’m pretty sure you hope you’re not one, too! None of us wants to be legalistic. Most of you reading my blog l want great, authentic and God-honouring relationships with your kids. This week...

Top 10 Signs You’re in a Legalistic Church

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 3, 2018 | Faith

Are you in a legalistic church? How can you know? Yesterday I shared my experience with Teen Missions International back in the summer of 1986. It was very focused on authority and rules, and had very little grace. And it was life sapping. Jesus, on the other hand,...

How I Was Once Labelled Rebellious on a Teen Missions Trip

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 2, 2018 | Parenting Teenagers, Sheila Snippets

What if legalism is keeping us from knowing and experiencing the resurrected Christ? Yesterday we celebrated Easter, when Jesus rose from the dead, defeated sin, and sent the Holy Spirit to be with us so that we could live in His power. But I’m worried that many...