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Top 10 Tips for Initiating Sex with Your Husband

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 8, 2020 | Spicing Things Up

Out of the last five times you’ve made love, how many have you initiated sex, and how many has your husband initiated? If you say he’s initiated all 5, that could be a problem! Now, I know sometimes you just start making love because you’re kissing...

Should Doing Housework Be Considered Foreplay?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 9, 2020 | Homemaking, Libido

Have you all heard “sex begins in the kitchen”–not meaning that we should do interesting things with whipping cream, but that doing the dishes is a good method to get women to warm up? I hear this a lot–“Guys, if you want her to have sex...

10 Sexy Questions to Ask Your Husband

by Emily Murchison | May 19, 2020 | Spicing Things Up

Want some sexy questions to ask your husband to get the party started? You’ve come to the right place! I’m getting ready for a big series in June when we’re going to talk about emotional labor and mental load, and we’ve been talking about some...

The Terrible, Awful Downward Spiral of Libido Differences

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 31, 2020 | Libido

Sometimes libido differences can send you on a negative spiral, where both of you are constantly feeling rejected. In about 7 weeks (yikes!) our manuscript for The Great Sex Rescue is due in at the publishers, so I’m frantically writing. I would have been doing...

Start Your Engines: How to Initiate Sex with Your Wife

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 31, 2019 | Men's Corner, Podcasts

How do you figure out how to initiate sex with your wife–especially if she doesn’t seem that interested in sex? It’s podcast day on the blog today, and on the last Thursday of every month I run my podcasts specifically aimed at husbands (though I...

Reader Question: My Husband Wakes me Up for Sex

by Emily Murchison | Oct 21, 2019 | Abuse, Libido, Theology of Marriage and Sex

If your husband wakes you up for sex, or starts sex with you when you’re asleep, is that okay? A reader sent me a link to a post that The Transformed Wife did recently where she was telling a woman that being woken up for sex when she didn’t want to be is...