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Can You Marry the Wrong Person? Why it Matters Who You Marry

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 20, 2020 | Preparing for Marriage

Can you marry the wrong person? When Keith and I started speaking at marriage conferences in 2004 and 2005, we were still using curriculum from FamilyLife USA. And the emphasis in that curriculum was in preventing divorce. I remember one of the major teachings was...

Let’s Talk “It’s Better to Marry Than to Burn”

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 12, 2020 | Preparing for Marriage

What does 1 Corinthians 7:9–“it is better to marry than to burn with passion”–mean? I was blown away by the comments last Friday when we were talking about the gatekeeping phenomenon that many women feel, when we think that the boy is the...

Don’t Marry Him Just Because He Says He’s a Christian!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 8, 2019 | Faith, Preparing for Marriage, Videos

Do we emphasize the wrong thing when talking about what makes someone marriage material? We receive a lot of emails from people in, frankly, horrible marriage situations. Oftentimes it’s an issue where sin or selfishness has been allowed to roam free for a while...

Should You Marry Someone Who Uses Porn?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 28, 2019 | Marriage, Pornography

What should you do if your fiance watches porn? Quite frankly, Porn destroys marriage. It rewires the brain so that what becomes arousing is an image, rather than a person. And it distorts people’s sexuality, so that we concentrate solely on the physical aspects...

10 Love Stories You Shouldn’t Copy

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 14, 2018 | Preparing for Marriage

Sometimes a love story is beautiful, but AWFULLY risky! I asked on my Facebook Page recently: what elements of your love story shouldn’t have worked but did? And I got some great stories! (Seriously, I’ve been asking a lot of questions on Facebook lately...

10 Tips to Help Your Daughter Recognize a “Good Guy” from a “Bad Guy”

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 24, 2018 | Parenting Teenagers, Preparing for Marriage

Does your daughter know how to recognize a “good guy”? Last week I shared my thoughts about that viral post “Men Prefer Debt Free Virgins without Tattoos”. One of the points I was making is that, ultimately, rules don’t tell you a thing...