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Should You Aim for Arousal, Not Sex?

by Rebecca Lindenbach | Apr 26, 2019 | Making Sex Feel Good

What if the reason sex doesn’t feel good for some women is that they haven’t had a chance to learn what arousal feels like? It’s Rebecca on the blog today. We get a ton of emails and comments from women with low libido, and a lot of them are quite...

How to Be a Generous Lover: Husband’s Edition

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 27, 2019 | Sexual Intimacy, Theology of Marriage and Sex

How can a man be a generous lover? Last week we talked about what it took for a wife to be a generous lover. And all month we’ve been looking at what it means for sex to be a mutual experience–where it’s meant to be good for both of you, where both...

Reader Question: My Wife Says We Never Make Love

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 12, 2018 | Sexual Intimacy

What does it mean if your wife says you never make love?Every Monday I like to film an “Ask Sheila” video, and today’s is a sad one from a husband whose wife doesn’t want sex–and who feels that they are drifting apart. He writes: Reader...

With Sex, Practice Makes Perfect!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 16, 2018 | Making Sex Feel Good, Sex

For many women, sex just isn’t that great at the beginning of the marriage. This week we’ve been looking at specific ways to make sex better, and today, to wrap it all up, I thought it was time for a bit of a pep talk. Here’s one of the problems we...

How to Stop Feeling Like a Failure with Your Sex Life

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 17, 2017 | Sex, Sexual Intimacy

I’ve written so much about this it’s hard to sum it up in just one post. But I’m going to try! Have you ever heard it said that men are like microwaves and women are like slow cookers? I think what they mean is that men heat up quickly, while women...

How Sex is Like Glue: The Emotional Connection of a Physical Bond

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 10, 2017 | Sex

We talk about sex on this blog. A lot. I’ve said why sex in marriage is important, helped women boost their libidos, and fought against harmful sexual behaviors whether it’s selfish sex in marriage or pornography use. But today we’ve got...