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Even IF Women Want Love More than Respect–Is That a Good Thing?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 16, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

We’ve all heard the trope that men need respect while women need love. It’s in the best-selling book Love & Respect, which I have critiqued copiously. And as we pointed out in a podcast on the problems with unconditional respect, the whole...

Do You Feel Like All Men Should Find You Attractive?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 28, 2021 | Emotional Connection

Did purity culture make you sexualize all relationships with the opposite sex? We’ve been talking a lot about youth group lately–what youth group was like before purity culture infiltrated it; how porn may be the new purity culture. We talked last week...

What Happens When We Get Gender Stereotypes Wrong?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 11, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Yesterday we posted an important podcast about the idea that “men need respect and women need love”, and that these should be unconditional. It’s blown up on Twitter, and I’ve had so much feedback it’s hard to keep track. But a few things...

Can We Stop it with Gender Stereotypes Already?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 2, 2019 | Podcasts

Do gender stereotypes help or hurt? It’s time for a new episode of the To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! I hope you all will listen, but if you don’t have time, I’ll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can read all you want as well! And...

This Father’s Day, Let’s Remember: Dads Have it Rough, too!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 15, 2018 | Family

One of the thoughts that always occurs to me around Father’s Day is that I’m so glad I’m a mom, and not a dad. This week Father’s Day is upon us, so it’s time to thank Dad by emptying stores of ugly ties and the occasional fishing lure....

Are Husbands Supposed to “Get Their Wives Ready for Jesus”?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 4, 2018 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

A little before Christmas, an article appeared on the Desiring God website called “Husbands, get her ready for Jesus.” Desiring God summarized Pastor Brian Stoudt’s article this way: Husbands, we have the staggering privilege of getting our wives...