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Why It’s Not Okay to Say “I Wish I Never Had Kids!”

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 30, 2019 | Family

Lots of parents say “I wish I never had kids!” or “If I could do my life over again, I’d never have children.” I think that’s so destructive. This month, in our Wednesday series, we’re looking at the habits we have that can...

Avoiding Christmas Disappointment: How to Get Over the Christmas Clash

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 12, 2018 | Uncategorized

By 4 a.m. on Christmas morning, my brother-in-law’s house is bustling. Wrapping paper is flying, Christmas music is playing, and laughter is bubbling. But it’s not the kids who wake everyone up at 4. It’s my brother-in-law. He does Christmas BIG. My...

“In the Case of Ties, He Wins.” Is This Really Submission?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 19, 2018 | Emotional Connection, Resolving Conflict

If I were to ask you what it means to submit to your husband, what would you say? When I’ve asked that question at marriage groups, people hem and haw and then eventually come up with something like this: When we’re disagreeing about something, the husband...

Our Submission Series: Does Jesus Value Marriage Over the People in It?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 12, 2018 | Marriage, Theology of Marriage and Sex

One of the interesting phenomena I’ve encountered when blogging is that the angry men who leave “drive-by” comments quoting Bible verses about how women must obey and remain silent so rarely talk about Jesus. They take verses out of context from New...

Is It Wrong to Expect Things from Your Spouse?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 4, 2018 | Resolving Conflict

Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? I’m going to climb up on my soapbox for this post and just give a little bit of a rant. I hope you’ll excuse me. But I see a problem with the way that a lot of Christian teaching addresses emotional needs in...

Honeymoon Regrets: What I Would Do Differently

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 2, 2018 | Sex

Do you have any honeymoon regrets? I’ve been spending this week talking to new brides about what to expect when they get married, and I thought it was a good idea to revisit the honeymoon! When we had been married for about 18 years, my husband and I took a...