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Compassion for Anna Duggar–And How We Judge Success in Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 30, 2021 | Bare Marriage

Josh Duggar has been arrested by the feds, and I’m so sad for Anna Duggar. I wasn’t going to write about this today, but it actually intersects with a number of things I’ve been thinking about this week, and I thought I could put them all in one...

The Woman in the Bible Who Gets The Worst Rap

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 6, 2018 | Faith

I love the Bible because it’s filled with stories–heroes and villains; kings and peasants; rulers and prophets. And often the Bible leaves us with stories without giving any commentary on them. We’re supposed to read the stories and draw our own...

How a Marriage Deteriorates: It’s in the Little Things

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 28, 2018 | Emotional Connection, Resolving Conflict

How does a marriage deteriorate? How does a marriage that starts with a blissful couple in a church fall apart? This week we’re talking about good decisions and fresh starts, and I want to start with a basic truth: Most people are not bad. Yet when I read emails...

Wifey Wednesday: When Your Marriage is in Trouble, Do Something!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 28, 2018 | Marriage, Resolving Conflict

When a marriage is going “south,” one of the worst things you can do is…nothing. And sometimes the reason we’re paralyzed, and we feel like we have no choice, is because we worry that if we do something, the marriage may end. But if we do that, have we turned...

Why Anger Is Not Always a Bad Emotion–even in Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 10, 2017 | Resolving Conflict

Is it okay to speak the truth in love in marriage? This week started out with an interesting discussion on the blog about what to do if your husband has a really big belly–which makes sex difficult. A number of commenters said that this was completely an invalid...

Reader Question: I Just Found Porn on My Husband’s Phone. Now What?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 11, 2016 | Pornography

What do you do if you find out that your husband uses porn? One of the most recent questions I get from readers is about husbands using porn. Here’s a question that recently came through: I have recently discovered that my husband looks at pornographic websites...