emotional needs Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

The 5 Love Styles and the Attachment Styles Dance

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 11, 2022 | Emotional Connection

Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our “love styles” as adults. I’m a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It’s one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We...

How to Stop Being a Doormat in Your Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 2, 2020 | Emotional Connection, Tough Marriage Situations

Do you ever feel like a doormat in your marriage? You want so badly to connect with your spouse, but whatever you do, your spouse just doesn’t connect back with you. Yesterday I shared an email from a woman who felt like she never talked with her husband and...

How to Handle Your Children’s Disappointments

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 11, 2020 | Parenting Small Children, Parenting Teenagers

My girls were both far more emotionally mature on their wedding day than I was on mine. And their husbands were both more emotionally mature than Keith was, too! Keith and I were just so young, in so many ways (though my daughters were both technically younger than I...

Are Expectations in Marriage Wrong? 3 Things You Should Expect from Your Spouse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 10, 2020 | Emotional Connection

Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? We’ve been talking about emotional maturity this month, and yesterday, as I was writing about how to have a conversation when a spouse is stonewalling, it reminded me of a post I wrote a while back about how...

EMOTIONAL MATURITY SERIES: What To Do When Your Spouse is Stonewalling

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 9, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Have you ever experienced stonewalling in your marriage? If you’ve ever said something like, “He refuses to talk about it,” “every time I bring it up he shuts me down,” “She walks out of the room if I mention it.” “He...

The Marriage Meeting: Make it Easy (and Fun!) with This New Marriage App

by Joanna Sawatsky | Oct 11, 2019 | Emotional Connection

Why not harness the power of a marriage app to help you feel connected? We all know we are supposed to spend time with our spouse and check in… but how do you make that happen practically? And when you are alone and talking, how do you keep the conversation...