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Learning to Let Your Husband Serve You

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 23, 2020 | Emotional Connection

Do you have a hard time letting your husband do things for you? All month we’ve been talking about mental load and emotional labor, and how much many women feel overburdened by bearing too much of the load. But there is another side of this: some women have a...

THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: Why the Daily Grind Needs to Be Shared

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 22, 2020 | Homemaking

The “daily grind” tasks are the ones that often build the most resentment in a marriage. We’re in the middle of our series about mental load in marriage and sharing the emotional labor. We talked first about what those terms mean, and then showed how...

THE EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: How to Eliminate Nagging for Good

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 15, 2020 | Homemaking, Resolving Conflict

What if the reason that many women “nag”, or at least men feel “nagged”, is that women are carrying too much of the mental load? If only women know what tasks need to be done, then it’s almost inevitable that they will have to issue...

The Emotional Labor of Kinkeeping: Why Men Should Call their Moms

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 12, 2020 | Doing Life Together

Who does the emotional labor of keeping relationships with extended family close? We’ve been talking this month in our series about the work of emotional labor, and how that can contribute to women’s mental load–that feeling that we’re carrying...

PODCAST: What if Your Husband’s Not on Board with Sharing Emotional Labor?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 11, 2020 | Homemaking, Podcasts

What if you want to redistribute the mental load and emotional labor in your household–but your husband’s not on board? We’ve been talking about emotional labor all month on the blog, and we’ve got a lot more coming! And today on the podcast we...

EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: How Do We Decide What Needs to Be Done?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 8, 2020 | Homemaking

When we’re trying to divide up the mental load, one of the problems we run into is agreeing on what actually needs to be done. This month we’re looking at emotional labor and mental load, and we started our series last week talking about the problem of...