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EMOTIONAL MATURITY SERIES: What To Do When Your Spouse is Stonewalling

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 9, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Have you ever experienced stonewalling in your marriage? If you’ve ever said something like, “He refuses to talk about it,” “every time I bring it up he shuts me down,” “She walks out of the room if I mention it.” “He...

On an Unbiblical View of Suffering, Wife Abuse, and Created To Be His Helpmeet

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 28, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

One of the most damaging and unbiblical “Christian” books on marriage is Debi Pearl’s Created to Be His Helpmeet. Debi Pearl’s view of submission teaches women to allow themselves to be abused, rather than teaches women to seek God’s...

Can You Divorce for Abuse? Our Tendency to Treat Adultery as Worse than Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 3, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Unfortunately (in my mind), there has not been consensus in the Christian world on whether or not a person is biblically justified to divorce in cases of abuse. It’s long been held that you can divorce for adultery, but not for abuse (I explained why I think...

If You Pray Hard Enough, Will God Stop Your Husband from Abusing You?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 22, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Can you change an abusive marriage just by praying hard and having enough faith? A while ago a woman sent me in a letter criticizing me for saying that it’s okay for women to divorce in cases of abuse, because I should be telling women to have faith for a...

An Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect and Emerson Eggerichs

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 15, 2020 | Bare Marriage, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Focus on the Family initially had its logo on the book Love & Respect, and heavily markets it through their website and emails, often giving it as a freebie to people who donate. As I have talked about at length on this blog, I have grave concerns about the book....

Is It Okay if Christian Marriage Books are Just a Little Bit Harmful?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 14, 2020 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Christian marriage books should not harm people. That seems to me to be a no-brainer, but often in discussions about books that I believe spread a toxic teaching, people will say something like: Well, I got a lot of out of it. I didn’t agree with all of it, and...