Can You Divorce for Abuse? Our Tendency to Treat Adultery as Worse than Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 3, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Unfortunately (in my mind), there has not been consensus in the Christian world on whether or not a person is biblically justified to divorce in cases of abuse. It’s long been held that you can divorce for adultery, but not for abuse (I explained why I think...

If You Pray Hard Enough, Will God Stop Your Husband from Abusing You?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 22, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Can you change an abusive marriage just by praying hard and having enough faith? A while ago a woman sent me in a letter criticizing me for saying that it’s okay for women to divorce in cases of abuse, because I should be telling women to have faith for a...

An Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect and Emerson Eggerichs

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 15, 2020 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Focus on the Family initially had its logo on the book Love & Respect, and heavily markets it through their website and emails, often giving it as a freebie to people who donate. As I have talked about at length on this blog, I have grave concerns about the book....

Is It Okay if Christian Marriage Books are Just a Little Bit Harmful?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 14, 2020 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Christian marriage books should not harm people. That seems to me to be a no-brainer, but often in discussions about books that I believe spread a toxic teaching, people will say something like: Well, I got a lot of out of it. I didn’t agree with all of it, and...

An Example of What Gaslighting Women Using the Bible Looks Like

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 19, 2019 | Abuse, Podcasts, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Tragically, too often in “Christian” teaching women’s views are ignored, or “gaslighted”. It’s time for a new To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast, and this one’s a doozy, and a bit of a departure from my normal podcasts....

Can an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Heal?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 21, 2019 | Resolving Conflict

Can a marriage emerge from emotional abuse to be healed–to feel whole and intimate? Last week was a depressing week on the blog. It really was a hard slog. I took an in-depth look at the book Love & Respect, and talked about how the Love & Respect...

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