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Emerson Eggerichs and the Gaslighting of Emotional Abuse Victims in a Sermon Series

by Connor Lindenbach | Mar 24, 2021 | Abuse

Last year, I looked at some rather alarming clips from some sermons Emerson Eggerichs–the author of Love & Respect–gave where he essentially gaslighted emotional abuse victims. I was prepared to let it go–I’ve talked about it, and...

The Podcast: No Wonder Abuse Victims Don’t Speak Up!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 12, 2020 | Abuse, Podcasts

A few weeks ago I deleted a podcast I did for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In it, I told a story of something that happened to me when I was 18, and I was raged at in public. I tried to tell a story which was nuanced–I had done something wrong as well. I...

EMOTIONAL MATURITY SERIES: What To Do When Your Spouse is Stonewalling

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 9, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Have you ever experienced stonewalling in your marriage? If you’ve ever said something like, “He refuses to talk about it,” “every time I bring it up he shuts me down,” “She walks out of the room if I mention it.” “He...

On an Unbiblical View of Suffering, Wife Abuse, and Created To Be His Helpmeet

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 28, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

One of the most damaging and unbiblical “Christian” books on marriage is Debi Pearl’s Created to Be His Helpmeet. Debi Pearl’s view of submission teaches women to allow themselves to be abused, rather than teaches women to seek God’s...

Can You Divorce for Abuse? Our Tendency to Treat Adultery as Worse than Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 3, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Unfortunately (in my mind), there has not been consensus in the Christian world on whether or not a person is biblically justified to divorce in cases of abuse. It’s long been held that you can divorce for adultery, but not for abuse (I explained why I think...

If You Pray Hard Enough, Will God Stop Your Husband from Abusing You?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 22, 2020 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Can you change an abusive marriage just by praying hard and having enough faith? A while ago a woman sent me in a letter criticizing me for saying that it’s okay for women to divorce in cases of abuse, because I should be telling women to have faith for a...