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The 3 Kinds of Marriage Problems–and Why We Shouldn’t Confuse Them

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 11, 2019 | Resolving Conflict

There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all marriage problems are alike. This month, our Wednesday series is all about reducing stress in marriage and getting to the root of what’s really bothering you. Last week we talked...

How Betrayal Trauma Therapy Can Help Wives of Porn Addicts

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 23, 2019 | Pornography, Sex

A woman’s husband had a secret porn addiction, so she gets rid of his smartphone to help him in his sobriety. Another woman checks her husband’s email after she found out he cheated on her. A third woman changes the bank account password because her...

98 Ways Women Can Sin Against their Husbands–Without Knowing It

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 4, 2019 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Sometimes marriage counselling goes very, very badly–especially if it’s focused on making sure women don’t sin against their husbands, rather than focused on building oneness and intimacy. Allow me to tell a story that unfolded last week and took a...

PODCAST: A Horrible Score Card for Wives

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 30, 2019 | Podcasts

What would happen if you went to marriage counseling, and you were handed a list of 100 sins you may be committing against your husband? It’s time for a new To Love, Honor and Vacuum podcast! And this one is a little bit different. Something was brought to our...

A “Bill of Rights” for Biblical Counseling Clients

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 5, 2019 | Faith

Can churches do biblical counseling in a safe way? Is there a code of ethics that churches or biblical counselors could adopt to protect clients? I really only intended to write one post about biblical counseling, but I wrote that post, and then the floodgates of...

On Rachael Denhollander, Biblical Counselling, and Healing

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 28, 2019 | Faith

Do we understand what a safe counselling situation looks like? Last week I wrote a post on 10 questions you should ask your biblical counsellor before counselling. It was a controversial one to write, and I said pretty much all I wanted to say. But this week two...