#churchtoo Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Stop Making Women Powerless in the Name of God

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 8, 2022 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

My heart hurts when I hear stories of what happens when women (or children or men, for that matter) are made powerless. In about a week or so we’ll be moving the blog over to a new domain, taking only the posts from 2018 with us. I have some posts from...

If Supporting Mark Driscoll Doesn’t Disqualify Someone from Leadership, What Does?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 5, 2022 | Faith

We need shepherds to act like shepherds–and caring for sheep means not supporting someone who preyed on sheep. Caring for the sheep means not supporting someone like Mark Driscoll, whose spiritual abuse caused Mars Hill in Seattle, the denomination he created,...

The Southern Baptist Convention’s Sexual Abuse Report

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 24, 2022 | Abuse

Callous and smug. That’s the impression I got about those high up in the Southern Baptist Convention after reading the report that dropped on the weekend about the sexual abuse scandal in the denomination, and how it has been ignored, covered up, and minimized,...

A 7 Point Plan for the Church to Care for Victims, not Support Abusers

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 16, 2022 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

What happens when we stress forgiveness over authenticity and confession? I want to start this morning with the story that got me thinking in this direction, and then propose 7 guidelines for how we, as Christians, handle taking sides when abuse is made public....

What Were You Wearing When Teenage You Was Harrassed in Church?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

Tragically, sexual harrassment, leering, and groping behaviour is all too common in churches–especially evangelical ones. Why “especially evangelical ones”? Because evangelical ones often stress that “boys will be boys”, “all men...

The Church’s #MeToo Reckoning

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 11, 2021 | Abuse

What happens when the church, which is supposed to be your safe haven, becomes the place where you are abused? Publisher’s Weekly named Ruth Everhart’s The #MeToo Reckoning one of their books of the year for 2020 in the religion category, and for good...