#churchtoo Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

What Were You Wearing When Teenage You Was Harrassed in Church?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 27, 2021 | Parenting Teenagers

Tragically, sexual harrassment, leering, and groping behaviour is all too common in churches–especially evangelical ones. Why “especially evangelical ones”? Because evangelical ones often stress that “boys will be boys”, “all...

The Church’s #MeToo Reckoning

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 11, 2021 | Abuse

What happens when the church, which is supposed to be your safe haven, becomes the place where you are abused? Publisher’s Weekly named Ruth Everhart’s The #MeToo Reckoning one of their books of the year for 2020 in the religion category, and for good...

The World’s a Mess. God Still Sees You.

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 8, 2021 | Grief

This week the world watched as America went crazy. It actually broke my heart to see the nation that has been the shining light of democracy the world around have insurrectionists attempt a coup. I have had the privilege of visiting so many moving American monuments...

PODCAST EXTRAS: The 9 Signs of Grooming Behavior for Sexual Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 14, 2019 | Abuse, Podcasts

I’m afraid that most of us don’t know the signs of grooming behavior when it comes to sexual abuse. I know I didn’t! But sexual abuse, especially in churches, has been in the news a lot lately, and I thought it was worth doing a post on...

Why We Need to Rethink Automatic Bible College & 22-Year-Old Youth Pastors

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 8, 2019 | Faith, Parenting Teenagers

What if the way churches are hiring youth pastors is hurting our youth and hurting our youth pastors? This is going to be a long one. My girls and I have been talking about this for years, as they have watched friends go the Bible college/youth pastor route, and we...

Andy Savage, Who Assaulted a Girl in His Youth Group, Should Not Have a New Church

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 30, 2019 | Abuse, Faith

So Andy Savage, a former megachurch pastor from Memphis, is now starting a new church, despite being disqualified from ministry. I have had a tremendously busy week. Our grandson was born exactly a week ago, and we just got back from being with Rebecca and Connor (and...