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The DIRECT COMMUNICATION SERIES: Direct Communication Isn’t Mean–But It May Feel Like It

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 9, 2021 | Emotional Connection

When you start asking for things directly, it can feel like you’re being really mean. But what if the opposite is true? What if speaking directly is actually a way to be kind? We’re at the start of our direct communication series this month on the blog,...

The Emotional Labor and Mental Load Podcast!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 4, 2020 | Homemaking, Podcasts

Emotional labor and mental load take their toll on a marriage–because they often exhaust the wife. So many women experience this, and yet we don’t really have a name for it. We know something is wrong, we feel guilty because we dream of getting away for...

Iron Sharpens Iron: How to Speak Up when Something’s Bugging You in Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 20, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

How do you ACTUALLY confront your spouse when something’s bugging you? We’re in the middle of our iron sharpening iron series on the blog this month, where I’m talking about how marriage is supposed to make us better people. We’re supposed to...

Iron Sharpens Iron Series: It’s NOT a Sin to Confront Your Spouse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 13, 2020 | Resolving Conflict, Theology of Marriage and Sex

If you think there’s something wrong in your marriage, or you feel hurt or distant from your spouse, is it okay to confront your spouse and bring it up? That may seem like an odd question, but hear me out on this. I’m in the middle of our “iron...

How One Woman Became a Warrior Wife

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 10, 2020 | Resolving Conflict, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Maybe being a wife is about fighting FOR your husband, not just being nice to your husband. I want to share a story that was shared on this blog this week, but before I do that, I want to tell you about a conversation my husband Keith and I had over Christmas. I...

Happy Couples Sweat the Small Stuff Part 2: Ask for Help!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 24, 2019 | Emotional Connection

Sometimes you just have to ask your husband for what you need! I’ve been talking all month about how to change the dynamic in your marriage and start feeling close again. I wanted to end the month with super practical tips, and so I talked about how happy...