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Do You Need to Get Angry at What Purity Culture Stole from You?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 15, 2021 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Anger is not always a bad thing–and some of us would benefit from a bit of it! i’m just back from a weekend knitting retreat with my mom. About 60 knitters gathered at an inn close to where I live for some knitting classes and show and tell and just great...

Reader Question: When Does Anger Become Abuse?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 4, 2021 | Abuse, Resolving Conflict

How can you tell if your husband has anger management issues, or if he’s actually abusive? I’m starting a series on the blog this month on direct communication, and yesterday we looked at what hinders speaking directly. We’ll also cover what direct...

Is It Way Too Easy for Your Husband to Push Your Buttons? Why We Get So Defensive

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 8, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Anger is often a secondary emotion. So we need to ask: What’s going on below the surface? We’re wrapping up our emotional maturity series with a look at anger. Yesterday I was talking about how anger is like an iceberg; anger is the emotion that...

Handling Anger in Marriage: Understanding the Iceberg

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 7, 2020 | Resolving Conflict

Many marriages are plagued by anger, and yelling matches or big angry outbursts. People will often say, “I have a temper problem” or “he has an anger problem.” As we finish up our series on emotional maturity, I promised to spend a little bit...

The Podcast: No Wonder Abuse Victims Don’t Speak Up!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 12, 2020 | Abuse, Podcasts

A few weeks ago I deleted a podcast I did for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In it, I told a story of something that happened to me when I was 18, and I was raged at in public. I tried to tell a story which was nuanced–I had done something wrong as well. I...

Porn and Anger: How Porn Use Stunts Emotional Growth

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 4, 2019 | Pornography

Porn and anger go together, because porn doesn’t just affect someone’s sex drive. Porn affects personality, too.Last weekend I was speaking in Edmonton at the Breakforth conference on a cold, dark, freezing rain Sunday morning. The topic was “how...