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Why We Have to Stop Ignoring the Orgasm Gap by Saying Frequency is all that Matters

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 11, 2022 | Making Sex Feel Good

Once again, Focus on the Family is promoting an article that places the blame on you if your spouse cheats. They’re advertising an older article on their Facebook page right now where it encourages you to look for “vulnerabilities” in your marriage...

Why We Need to Stop Talking about Resolving Conflict in Marriage

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 5, 2021 | Resolving Conflict

What does it mean to “resolve conflict”? We’ve been talking so much about sex lately since The Great Sex Rescue launched, and that’s been great. But I thought this week I may revisit some of the important things I’ve written about...

Do You Feel Like All Men Should Find You Attractive?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 28, 2021 | Emotional Connection

Did purity culture make you sexualize all relationships with the opposite sex? We’ve been talking a lot about youth group lately–what youth group was like before purity culture infiltrated it; how porn may be the new purity culture. We talked last week...

Can God Really Restore a Marriage?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Sep 1, 2020 | Emotional Connection, Theology of Marriage and Sex

If your marriage is broken, and you feel distant, and you’re reeling from heartache, can God restore it? I think it’s one of God’s favourite things to do! But I also think this question has a lot of nuance to it, and I was thinking about it this week...

How Betrayal Trauma Therapy Can Help Wives of Porn Addicts

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 23, 2019 | Pornography, Sex

A woman’s husband had a secret porn addiction, so she gets rid of his smartphone to help him in his sobriety. Another woman checks her husband’s email after she found out he cheated on her. A third woman changes the bank account password because her...

10 Reasons Why Rushing Forgiveness Ruins Intimacy

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 6, 2019 | Theology of Marriage and Sex, Tough Marriage Situations

When you discover that your husband is cheating on you, or using pornography, should you forgive right away and work on rebuilding the marriage? Or if you discover that your wife is cheating on you, should you put that aside for the sake of the marriage and work on...