50 Shades of Grey Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

Why (Older) Women Often Long for More Adventure in Bed

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 4, 2018 | Sex

The image of the older woman who is sexually confident and wants more adventure in bed is quite common in our culture. Think of the “cougar” stereotype, that older woman who is looking for a younger man to satisfy her. Recently, when I was flying back from...

When Making Love Doesn’t Seem “Hot” Enough

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 2, 2017 | Pornography, Sexual Intimacy

Let’s face it: sometimes sex with our husbands just doesn’t seem that “hot”. Now that may be because sex has just gotten boring. But sometimes there’s something more sinister at work. And I want to talk about that today, since it’s...

On Vulnerability, Sex, and Women’s Erotica

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 25, 2013 | Pornography, Sex, Sexual Intimacy

Up in my neck of the woods, in Ontario, our license plates switched over a couple of years ago to the format four letters and three numbers. And every time a particular community office in the Ministry of Transportation needs more license plates, they get sent 1000 at...

The Mainstreaming of Porn

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 24, 2012 | Pornography

When I was young, it was hard to come across porn by accident. It was all sold in special stores, or on high shelves in magazine racks. Novels weren’t really raunchy in the same way. It wasn’t as if porn could just jump out at you, by accident. But today...

How to Spice Things Up without Fifty Shades of Grey

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 14, 2012 | Libido, Making Sex Feel Good, Pornography, Sex, Sexual Intimacy

Yesterday I wrote about why reading 50 Shades of Grey can be harmful to your marriage: basically, it causes you to fantasize, so that it’s harder to stay “present” with your spouse. But in reading some of the comments here and on Facebook, I think...