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Why We Need to Rethink Automatic Bible College & 22-Year-Old Youth Pastors
What if the way churches are hiring youth pastors is hurting our youth and hurting our youth pastors? This is going to be a long one. My girls and I have been talking about this for years, as they have watched friends go the Bible college/youth pastor route, and we...

PODCAST EXTRAS: Postpartum, Vaginismus, and Why Does It Hurt Down There?
We just don't talk about how relatively common sexual pain is. Today on the podcast Rebecca's sharing about her really difficult postpartum experience (she had a bad tear, plus she has a bizarre hormonal rash), and we're delving into how common sexual pain actually...

Our Soul Ties Series: What Are Soul Ties? And Do We Need to Break Soul Ties?
I often get asked if soul ties exist, and, if so, how do you break soul ties? It's a common enough query that brings people to the blog that I thought it would be worth exploring some of what we mean by "soul tie" for our November series, and talk about how to frame...

Women Deserve Orgasm, Too: It’s Not Selfish for a Woman to Want to Orgasm During Intercourse
Do women deserve to orgasm when making love to their husbands? Is it reasonable to expect that when a couple is making love, both of them should receive pleasure? I normally do a top 10 post on Tuesdays, and I had something all ready to go, but there was a discussion...

I Need Your Help–with the Biggest Christian Marriage & Sex Survey!
I need your voice. Seriously. We are about to launch a BIG project at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. We've just signed a contract for a new book with Baker Books, tentatively titled The Great Sex Rescue. It's going to cover how to have amazing sex by getting over all the...

Stages of Sex Series: Menopause and the Slowing Down Years
What happens to sex in marriage when menopause hits? Or when men's bodies start to slow down and erectile dysfunction becomes more common? On Wednesdays during the month of October I've been talking about the different stages of sex. We talked about: The "Figuring...

Start Your Engines: How to Initiate Sex with Your Wife
How do you figure out how to initiate sex with your wife--especially if she doesn't seem that interested in sex? It's podcast day on the blog today, and on the last Thursday of every month I run my podcasts specifically aimed at husbands (though I think women can...

Andy Savage, Who Assaulted a Girl in His Youth Group, Should Not Have a New Church
So Andy Savage, a former megachurch pastor from Memphis, is now starting a new church, despite being disqualified from ministry. I have had a tremendously busy week. Our grandson was born exactly a week ago, and we just got back from being with Rebecca and Connor (and...

My Top 10 Tips for Dealing with Pet Allergies in Your Family
What happens when pet allergies hit your family--and affect your marriage? I know that's not one of my usual topics, but so many people around me are really affected by pet allergies, and as we enter the holiday season, I thought it might be a good topic to talk...

Why Your Husband Wants You to Read this Marriage Blog
This marriage blog was originally for women--married, Christian women, to be exact, although honestly anyone is welcome! It's about advice for marriage from a Christian perspective, and I deal with everything quite openly--including sex. Most people who read here are...