Abuse Archives - To Love, Honor and Vacuum

A Letter to the Woman with a Controlling Husband

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 10, 2022 | Abuse

Are you married to a controlling husband? I first ran this post back in 2016, but as we’re moving over to our new domain next week, and taking only the posts from 2018 and forward, I wanted to make sure this one came with us! I refer to it a lot. If...

Stop Making Women Powerless in the Name of God

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 8, 2022 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

My heart hurts when I hear stories of what happens when women (or children or men, for that matter) are made powerless. In about a week or so we’ll be moving the blog over to a new domain, taking only the posts from 2018 with us. I have some posts from...

Why Do Some “Christian” Leaders Believe it’s Better for Women to be Killed than Raped?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Aug 3, 2022 | Abuse, Theology of Marriage and Sex

There’s been an alarming and disturbing conversation happening on social media lately about how women should choose death over being raped. An abuse advocate was talking to me about it, and how scary this trend was. I then began to see it all over Twitter, and...

She’s Someone–Plus Priming for Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 8, 2022 | Abuse

Can we talk about how our messages about a woman’s role can actually undermine her safety? Just a quick catch-up for today’s post! I want to share a few things I’ve seen on social media and then throw this open for discussion. I’m taking a bit...

Escaping a Sex Cult: Alyssa Wakefield’s Podcast Episode, Part 2

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 16, 2022 | Abuse, Podcasts

Let’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult. That’s Alyssa Wakefield’s conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast! Listen to last week’s episode, where she explains how she...

John Piper Tells Women with Harsh Husbands–to Basically Do Nothing

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jun 14, 2022 | Abuse

On Friday on his podcast, John Piper told a woman married to a harsh husband to just be gentle with him. Pray more. Remember it might be his personality. Win him with kindness. Show appreciation and call out the good in him. And don’t talk to other people about...

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About Sheila

Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 29 years and happily married for 24! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 7 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.