What if you could THINK yourself to a GREAT marriage?
Could the way that you’re be thinking be keeping your marriage ho-hum?
Read on–because I believe that God has so much more for you!
Check out 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage
Tired of “Pat Answers” That Never Seem To Work?
We’ve all heard them:
- Just pray more and your marriage will get better!
- If you submit, he’ll start to lead.
- Once you find your soulmate, you’ll finally be happy.
- If you’re bothered by something, Duck! Let God smack him, not you.
- Conflict is bad for a marriage; just love on him and the urge to fight will stop.
All of those things may sound true–and in some cases they are! But the reason they’re “pat answers” is that they’re not ALWAYS true. They take a complex problem and try to condense it to one-size-fits-all advice.
And quite often it doesn’t fit.
Let’s go beyond pat answers and go deeper–to REAL solutions that can give you the marriage you’ve always wanted.
Do you yearn to feel truly intimate with your spouse? Do you have this overwhelming feeling like you’re missing out on something–that God had so much more planned for your marriage, but you can’t quite figure out how to get there? When you’ve put into practice all the usual advice, but your marriage still falls short of the intimacy and joy you want, what then? Are patience and perseverance your only hope for a better relationship?
I’m author and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire. And let me assure you–The solution to a happier relationship is not found in being a more patient, more perfect wife, but in taking responsibility for what you can do—and especially for how you think about your marriage. Let me challenge you to replace pat Christian answers with nine biblical truths that will radically shift your perspective on your husband, your relationship, and your role in God’s design for marriage.
No more pat answers!
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Who Can Change Your Marriage?
God certainly can. Your husband certainly can.
But what if God wants to empower you to do something yourself? And what if you’re spending your time feeling stuck–feeling like if you just love enough or pray enough then either your husband or God will give you the bliss you’ve dreamed of.
That’s a little manipulative.
It’s saying: I’ll be loving to get him to change. I’ll pray to get my husband to change.
What if you’re the one who has to change?
Why Should I Have to Change?
I don’t mean you have to become a doormat. Quite the opposite!
If you’re in a good marriage, that’s wonderful! I am, too. But it can always be better. And in this book I show you how our thought patterns can make us stuck in a good marriage–instead of a great one!
But if you’re in a difficult marriage, that’s all the more reason to start changing the way you think about marriage–and changing the way you think about your ability to change things.
Who will benefit from 9 Thoughts?
Newlyweds who want to start off well!
9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage will help you troubleshoot potential issues down the road now, so you can work preemptively to avoid marriage problems later!
Couples Who Are Stuck in a Rut
Whether your marriage has become “blah” or you feel like you’ve been in the same fight over and over again with no hope of improvement, 9 Thoughts will help you get out of that negative cycle. Figure out why your conflict isn’t getting resolved, and bring back that joy to your marriage!
Wives who are struggling with a husband’s sin and see no real solution
Are you and your husband dealing with something big, and none of the typical marriage advice has been helping? Does it seem overwhelming, like there’s no hope? 9 Thoughts provides outside-the-box thinking on big issues to help you finally break through.
What are you waiting for?
What do your favorite authors think of 9 Thoughts?
Your marriage was meant to be more. Don’t settle for less.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the 9 thoughts, anyway?
Thought 1: My Husband Is My Neighbor
Thought 2: My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad
Thought 3: My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy
Thought 4: I Can’t Mold My Husband into My Image
Thought 5: I’m Not in Competition With My Husband
Thought 6: I’m Called to Be a Peacemaker, Not a Peacekeeper
Thought 7: Being One Is More Important Than being Right
Thought 8: Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
Thought 9: If I’m Not Careful, We’ll Drift Apart
Did you know that there's a FREE Bible study that goes along with the book?
I created a free book study and devotional centered around 9 Thoughts. That’s right. It’s free. It comes with videos and discussion questions for each chapter, together with biblical discussion around each of the points.
I wanted to make this study completely free so that you get the most bang for your buck with this book. I truly believe that these thoughts have the possibility to completely transform your relationship, and using this study alongside reading the book will help you work through these thoughts on a deeper level.
Is it available in paperback or ebook version?
Both can be found on Amazon. You can order the traditional paperback, and Amazon offers a kindle version of the book. If you’re interested in the ebook version, but you don’t have a kindle, you can still read it online on the Amazon Reader!Check out the book here!