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Do New Brides Need Their Husbands to Teach Them about Sex?
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
PODCAST: The Backlash Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner
How's purity culture doing one year since She Deserves Better launched? Today we're celebrating one year since our book She Deserves Better hit the market! Based on our survey of 7000 predominantly evangelical women, looking at how their experiences in church circles...
Smells Like Jezebel Spirit: Can We Please Stop Calling Women Jezebel Spirit?
Some awfully bizarre things happened at the recent Strong Men’s Conference–and Jezebel made an appearance. I don’t even know where to begin, and I don’t want to talk about the conference itself because so many have already done a good job. To sum up, there was one of...
Fact Checked It: Are Teen Girls Asexual?
Do teen girls have a sex drive? I’m desperately hoping that you answer, “Of course!” Now, obviously not all teen girls will be sexual (asexuals do make up a small part of the population). But the idea that teen girls are somehow not sexual, while teen boys are...
What LakePointe Church and Pastor Josh Howerton Think about Women
Josh Howerton has made terribly degrading comments about women and sex from the pulpit. His teaching on sex and marriage has been problematic. And I seem to be in the middle of it. Because of that, I've been sent a ton of problematic things about Lakepointe from a lot...
PODCAST: How Submission “Cults” Groom for Abuse–One Woman’s Story
When you've been raised to submit, will you even recognize abuse? With thanks to the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible for sponsoring this podcast! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast, we've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's...
What is the Window of Tolerance? And What Does It Mean about Sex?
The window of tolerance concept helps highlight emotional health. On a recent podcast episode, I was honoured to have licensed counsellor, Jay Stringer, on as a guest. One of the things he talked about was that evangelical views on gender roles and marriage are...
Does Sex Have a Start-Up Cost for You? Or a Major Cost?
When people say they “don’t want” sex tonight, what do they mean? We talked about this on the Bare Marriage podcast last week, but I'd like to elaborate on part of it today. I think we often get confused when people talk about this. They’ll say,“Well, sometimes I have...
7 Ways Churches Can Help People Going through Divorce
with thanks to Brazos Press and the book Forgiveness After Trauma for sponsoring this post. Divorce is one of the most painful things a person can go through. But often, right when people need help the most, the church abandons them. A few weeks ago on the Bare...
PODCAST: Are We Saying Wives Don’t Have to Have Sex?
"So you think it's okay if women just don't have sex, then?" Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines--without obligation,...