Sometimes we just need to hear why people love marriage!
This year has been a heavy one for the Church. So many things have been unearthed and there is a real reckoning happening. I’m beyond grateful that abuse that happened in the dark is being dragged out into the light and I’m doing my best to advocate for those who were hurt.
I’d be lying, though, if I said that my work doesn’t come at a cost. It’s heavy and so terribly sad and some days I’m just angry and pessimistic and disappointed that those in power are doing the wrong thing (again!) that I’m tempted to despair. Combine that with the many, many sad emails and comments I get from people in abusive marriages, and it takes a toll.
When I was having one of those moments last week I put out a call on Facebook and Twitter for some happy marriage stories.
Okay, people. For the last few days I've been inundated with comments and emails from women in very abusive marriages. It's taking its toll.
Tell me some HAPPY marriage stories!
— SheilaGregoire (@sheilagregoire) March 2, 2019
So many of you sent in amazing stories that made me laugh and smile, and I thought: If I’m struggling with seeing the world in a bad light, maybe other people are, too! So I thought I’d share the joy and post some of your stories here (and thank you so much for everyone who wrote in!). They were all amazing, but I tried to find a few commonalities, and here are several that sum the whole thing up!
And each paragraph is its own story, by the way.
1. We had an adorable “meet”
I met my husband white water rafting down the Cheat. Thankfully I was sitting behind him and was able to slide my left foot under the tubing he was on. When rough waters came that would have thrown me over the front heads, my lodged foot would stop me and I’d catch myself on his shoulders. It’s a good thing I knew how to ride a horse with all the bucking that river did! We married 7 months later and that was 32+ years ago. May I say that although we both loved the experience of white water rafting we have never had the desire to go again. I guess you could say that by the grace of God we simply found what we were searching for. To this day he is my hero!
My husband and I met at a church youth group trip. I had always made fun of these trips deeming them “find your spouse” trips. Well, ironically enough, that came to be true for me when I met my husband in Missouri, he was from Indiana and I was from Michigan. We were just 16&17 and dated long distance (2005) for a couple of years and I ended up taking a job in his area, getting married (2011), and having 3 adorable children. 💕
My husband and I met at a homeschool dance on April 20th. I had come in late and he noticed me sitting on the side and asked me to dance… we got married six months after we met on October 20th. There is not a day that goes by that we don’t thank the Lord for leading us together. We’ve been married for six years now and are still waiting for our “honeymoon” phase to end. 😍 He is the best thing that ever happened to me, treats me like a queen everyday and is SO patient with me even when I can’t stand myself…oh and now we have two fun kiddos to keep us on our toes. To encourage you to know that: Marriage to a good man is heaven on earth!! ❤️
We met at family camp when we were 15 in a rec/game room and played ping pong together. My mom started the game with him and then left me! … [We] have been together for almost 4 years and we have a little girl on the way in a month or so! Between my Pastor’s amazing premarriage counsel and finding your marriage blog and another’s, we have had a wonderful and amazing marriage so far, despite having a lot of uphill battles in our short time so far. This picture is from a trip we made our first year of marriage. Might understand why I was so mega nervous about him being so tall when we first met! ❤️❤️❤️
2. We’ve Experienced Second Chances and New Beginnings
Okay, these are always my favourite ones! Not that I want people to go through hard times, of course, but the fact that God can redeem is always so encouraging. I love these!
My hubby & I were on the brink of divorce in 2006. Next month we will celebrate our 23rd anniversary married & over 33 years together. I have never felt as loved by him as I do now. We have never been closer. After decades of praying he would come back to God he now attends church with me regularly does daily devotions & bible readings & prays daily. Praise God for answered prayers & healed hearts
Married for almost 7 years, we have been thru things that would tear most couples a part…infidelity, addiction, miscarriages, mental illnesses…but the Lord has worked incredible healing in our lives individually and in our marriage! He has given us the ultimate testimony of hope and unconditional love. 2.5 years of healing (and still more to come), 2 kiddos later, we fall more in love every day and are enjoying growing together and going thru all the ups and downs together.
Here is a happy marriage that Jesus is working on daily! Three wonderful little kids, and 4 years clean of a porn addiction! Husband and I were baptized together as adults (he was not Christian when we started dating and I was not any good at being Christian) and now raising our kids with faith from the beginning. We do a traditional sabbath once a month where daddy blesses each child and reads proverbs 31 to me. We pray before meals and bedtime. We have come such a long way!!
I am Getting Married in < 98 days to an old college boyfriend who never married, has no kids, and yet is brave enough to give up his gaming Saturdays to be step-dad to my 5! He is just the most respectful, level-headed, helpful, supportive guy with a great sense of humor and fun. I can’t wait to start life over at 44yo and show a very different relationship dynamic to my kids!!
I just celebrated 20 years of marriage to a man who should have left me long ago, but for the grace of God. I was very abusive and controlling, he was passive and just took it for many years. God is sovereign, and he does turn hearts of stone into hearts of flesh. We can’t make that happen. We can’t change our spouses. I wake up every day grateful and just…awestruck that I got another chance.
3. My husband helped me heal
I got married 1.5 years ago and have a history of being sexually abused. Marriage has been the most healing and redemptive thing for me and God has blessed me so much with a fun, tender, sensitive, empathetic and passionate husband!!
I also have a history of sexual abuse that I didn’t realize I was bringing into my marriage 11 years ago. He has been with me every step of the journey looking at me with tender, unabashed love. We have been to hell and back as we (I) journey through healing and redemption. Jesus used my husband to show me what love truly is and I am forever grateful. ❤️
4. My husband supports me in my calling
I start a job tomorrow that just might be my dream job. It’s everything I’ve ever wanted and will utilise every skill I excel at. My husband negotiated a shifted schedule so he could pick DB2 up from school & took all of spring break off.
My husband will go out in the rain, hail, sleet or snow to get me medicine or even just a treat for no reason. He encourages me to pursue my dreams and he prays for me. I am so blessed.
5. We are best friends, we even love doing the mundane stuff of life together!
My husband of 17 years took care of the kids, did laundry, and helped out in so many ways while I was running 2 of my kids back and forth to the local community theater for a play that they are in this week. It’s been a crazy week but we’re all having a great time because we are ALL pitching in and doing our part. We tag team, work together, play together, compliment each other often, work with intention to keep our own grass green and we truly love each other!
My husband and I canned 70 pints of jam last weekend. It is so much fun making jams and jellies with my husband 💗
6. My husband is thoughtful and takes care of me
I’ve been married to my high school sweetheart for almost 17 years. I just had major surgery 10 days ago and can’t do anything. He lovingly helps me shower, shaved my legs, puts my socks on.. and has taken over all my responsibilities right now. Love him to pieces.
Married 18.5 years. He’s my best friend. We both go out of our way to speak each other’s love language. I don’t have to make my own breakfast or start my own car before I leave for work. Never once had to shovel the driveway after a snowstorm. I delight in making him happy. We often say to each other, “Do you think there’s any other couples in this world as happy as we are?” I hope so!!!
When my husband goes to bed before I do he sleeps on my half of the bed until I come to bed so that I don’t have to get into a cold spot. He has dozens of little things like this that I take for granted far more than I should.
I married very young. Before we married, I confessed to my husband-to-be (who lived across the country from me) that I was terrified of the dark. When we arrived after our honeymoon to the apartment he had chosen for us and had been living in, there was a nightlight in every room. He never said a word about it. We’ve been married almost 24 years, and he is still that selfless, loving person.
7. My husband has helped me be more like Christ
I was always told that I’d have to marry a “strong, domineering” guy to be able to “handle” me. 🙄🙄 So I didn’t think the cute, quiet, younger-than-me soldier who came to my church would ever be interested in me. Guess what? He was! 😍😍 And 10 years later, his quiet, gentle ways have taught me so much about how God loves us and have helped me grow so much. He’s an awesome husband, and an amazing father. I’m SO glad that God led us to each other!! ❤️❤️❤️
This year marks 10 years together and 7 years married. We met in college, and were instantly attracted. As we like to say, he was a heathen and I was a Pharisee…so we’ve learned a lot from each other! We now have two beautiful boys, with a third on the way. I’m so blessed to have found a man so willing to figure out how to make our marriage better. He’s taught me so much about what it means to lay down ones needs and wants for another’s. Can’t wait to see where life takes us.
Note: Her husband responded with a gif of Prince Harry dropping a mic
8. We are a great team
After almost 36 years of friendship & 31 yrs of marriage marked by mutual love, respect, care & service, we genuinely enjoy each other’s company & are having more fun now than ever.
My husband and I have been married 8 years and while it hasn’t always been easy, our bond is strong. We have a deep friendship where we know why the other is smirking from across the room. We tell each other about our honest opinions. We hold each accountable. We try our best to work as a team. And as I write this my husband looked over my shoulder and chuckled as he said, “There’s a strong physical attraction.” which, despite the chuckle, is true. It certainly isn’t always easy because we both came with baggage and bad habits but we always keep trying.
Our first date was April 1, 1981. We eloped May 11, 1981. I was 18 (two years of college), he was 21 (graduated with a commission in the US Army). My groom left that afternoon for officer basic training (we were in SC and he had to be in AZ in 3 days) that afternoon. Almost 38 years later and 10 children (12 pregnancies) , 13 moves, countless deployments, homeschooling, marriages, six grandchildren, two teens still living at home….. it’s BETTER than ever!! I am blessed beyond measure. Have there been hard times? Even hard years? Yep. But God is faithful and He has seen us through the rough spots.
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9. We’ve walked through life’s valleys together
We’ve been married for almost 22 years and I am amazed at how our love deepens every day. He’s been by my side through so many difficult things, such as a foster care situation we weren’t sure would turn out the way we hoped (it did, thank the Lord, and we adopted). We have prayed through so many decisions together. I pray my own kids find such a supportive and loving spouse as I have. ❤️
Married to my high school sweetheart 19 1/2 years! We survived 12 years of infertility and now 4 children later he’s still the best thing that ever happened to me. Mr Steady in my ups and downs of motherhood and depression and anxiety! I love him so much!
10. We have a super sweet love story – we were high school sweethearts who reconnected later in life
My husband and I met when I was 16 years old. We were high school sweethearts. When I was 19, we broke up and went separate ways. Yet, true love prevails. After 3 years apart, we reunited & got married. Last year, we celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary
I married my high school sweetheart, 32 years after we met. Although our lives led us in different directions for a while, we remained friends and eventually our roads converged again. It will be 8 months next Friday.
Bonus: Two pieces of simple good news
He loves God. He loves me. He loves our boys.
Finally, from Jules Woodson, who is a victim of sexual abuse in the church:
“God’s still writing mine.”
Whether God is still writing your love story, or whether you can celebrate along with everyone else, I’m glad you’re here, and I hope I can help your marriage grow.
Do you have a happy marriage story to share? Let me know in the comments!
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