Kissing in marriage should be fun!
But too often kissing stops once we’re married. We see it as foreplay, and many women don’t want to put a downpayment down on something they may not want to buy later, if you know what I mean. And many men don’t see the point in kissing if it’s not going to go somewhere, right now.
And that’s sad, because we lose one of the best ways to flirt, laugh, boost your libido, feel close, and all those fun things!
This week there are lots of sad things in the news. Politics is perplexing. There’s a huge expose of sexual abuse in the Southern Baptist Church. Bad news everywhere.
But it’s Valentine’s Day week, so this week we’re going to have some fun!
Yesterday I shared a new product I’ve created with 24 sexy dares that you can do together–8 for her; 8 for him; and 8 for you both together. I hope those help you spice things up and have some fun!
Today I want to talk about what can come BEFORE those dares–namely kissing! Let’s start smooching, to get the engines running and have fun. So consider the dares the R-rated version, and consider these more PG. But both are important!
And kissing helps you in ways you may not know! The extra saliva production helps your teeth. It lowers anxiety and blood pressure. It exercises your face! And best of all, it makes you feel close.
So here goes–10 kissing games you can add to your marriage to have some fun. Pick one and do it this week!
1. Recreate a movie kiss
Have a favourite movie? Watch it, and study one of the best kisses. Then try to recreate it! Some of my favourites: the “practice” kiss from The Wedding Singer for something sweet; the passionate kiss on the dock from The Notebook (bonus if you say “It wasn’t over. It still isn’t over!”) or from The Titanic; the silly upside down kiss from Spiderman (the Tobey Maguire version); the “accidental” eating the same spaghetti noodle kiss from Lady & the Tramp. Study the kiss first (often you can find clips on YouTube) and then try to act it out, move for move!
2. Recreate your first kiss
What were you doing? What were you thinking? What led up it?
Try to remember, and then relive it!
3. Kiss them when they can’t move–first one to laugh loses!
One of you has to stand or sit stock still. You can’t move. Not even your lips. The other has to kiss you on the mouth, lips, everything. The first one to laugh loses! Do this one back and forth periodically and keep a running tally of who’s the first to cave. It can leave you in stitches.
4. Kiss to a Timer!
Often we think we kiss for a lot longer than we actually do. Set a timer for 15 seconds and kiss the whole time. It’s a lot longer than you think. And you may find that halfway through your mood changes and you get really into it!
5. Undress while kissing—and no opening eyes, either!
Okay, here’s one that will either have you passionate or having you laughing like crazy. I’m betting on the latter for most of you.
The rules: take off any item of clothing which has to be removed over the head, but leave everything else on (even socks). Now, start kissing, and you have to remove every item of clothing the other person is wearing (yes, even socks) without unlocking your lips or opening your eyes. It’s harder than it sounds! And it’s kinda funny.
6. Guess the Flavour Kiss
Buy some flavoured lip balms and give him a long, luxurious kiss. Then ask him to guess the flavour you’re wearing! Give him three options to choose from to make it easier (is it apple; strawberry; or mint?)
7. The ACTUAL Kissing Game
This works just like the classic “drinking” game, when every time someone does something predictable that’s been decided on beforehand you take a drink. The classic is political debates–whenever anyone uses a stock phrase, you drink up.
- Well, here we’re going to kiss up! Here are some ideas:
- Watch a Hallmark movie, and every time someone says a “fake” swear word (like dagnubit), you kiss
- Watch a Twilight movie, and every time there’s a meaningful stare across a movie, you kiss (that’s about 1/4 of the movies, apparently, so that’s a lot of kissing)
- Watch an episode of Friends, and every time Joey does something stupid or people laugh at Joey, you kiss
- Watch a football game, and every time a penalty flag is thrown
- Watch an action movie, and every time a gun is fired
etc. etc. You can make up your own!
8. The Kiss’n Massage Me Game
Okay, maybe this one isn’t really a game. It’s just something I love. Take turns massaging each other’s necks, temple, and jawline and jaw muscles. (My jaw muscles are always so tight I really need this). Then, when you’re done and they’re really relaxed, kiss your spouse everywhere you’ve massaged them, ending with their lips.
9. Yoga Kissing (for Flexibility)
Another one guaranteed to get you laughing! Choose a yoga pose; both of you do it. Then figure out how to kiss without falling over or letting go of too much of the pose. Great ones to try are:
- Triangle Pose
- Tree Pose
- Warrior II
- Balancing the Cat
Not flexible enough? Try kissing while playing twister!
10. The “Gross Your Kids Out” Kissing Game
My personal favourite–gross out your kids! Kiss in front of your children. Nothing R rated, of course. But kiss like crazy! Kids actually like seeing that their parents enjoy each other and are affectionate together. They may say Eeeewwww. Older ones may say, “get a room!” But let your kids know that marriage is fun, you love each other, and your marriage is rock solid. 🙂
Of course, once you do these you may start to WANT to do more than just kiss. I’ve got you covered! My 24 Sexy Dares for Couples is super fun, and it gives you the chance to try new things, but also work on helping her experience more pleasure; helping both of your confidence with each other; and even growing your emotional and spiritual connection.
Does your marriage need some spicing up–and some fun?
Let’s talk in the comments: Why do you think so many couples stop kissing? How do you make it more frequent? Let me know!
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