Is life just passing you by?
Our third podcast is now live! And it’s available everywhere you normally listen to podcasts–iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, etc. Today we’re covering video game use, living a big life, and even how to rebuild trust after an affair. Listen in!
I know that not all of you like to listen to podcasts, and some of you like to read more. So I’m going to link to some of the resources that I talk about on the podcast, and try to do a bit of a summary!
Main Segment: Is Life Just Passing You By?
I talked in the segment this week about seeing this poinsettia when we were on vacation in Costa Rica last month:
It was huge. It was beautiful. It was amazing.
Very unlike those spindly poinsettias that we buy around Christmastime! It shows what can happen when something is given the best conditions to grow in.
I think our lives are a lot like that. God has works prepared in advance for us to do (Ephesians 2:10). He wants us to live a full life! But we can miss out on that if we spend our life on time wasters.
I’d invite you to read this post on how we often spend our lives:
Why do we spend so much time on time wasters?
I think we do it because we want an escape. We lead lives that are exhausting, that aren’t always fulfilling, and we want a chance to forget.
But if your basic problem is that your life isn’t that fulfilling, because you’re chronically lonely, or you feel as if you’re not doing what you’re called to do, or your relationships aren’t on track, then wasting time won’t fix the problem. It will only make your problem worse. And a spiral will begin, where your reality deteriorates, and so you want to escape even more.
I want to encourage you to spend time on things that are important, not just urgent! Take a look at the time waster post for some great graphs and ideas.
Millennial Marriage: Let’s Talk Video Games!
My daughter Rebecca and son-in-law Connor recorded this week’s millennial marriage about video games. Connor’s played video games for most of his post-adolescent life, and he’s got them in good balance right now. So they talked about how that happened in their marriage.
Reader Question: I’m a Newlywed, and I Have the Higher Sex Drive!
One woman wrote in and said that she was surprised to find after she got married that she was the one with the higher sex drive. We always talk as if it’s the guy who wants sex more, but that’s not always the case at all (as I talked about in my review of how Love & Respect treated sex).
You need to find out the reasons that he may have a lower libido, but remember that it could simply be that you’re both on different end of the bell curves!
Reader Comment: How Can You Say that Love & Respect Didn’t Focus on Jesus?
I had a great comment by a woman saying that when she read Love & Respect, it was full of stuff about Jesus and full of Bible verses, so how can I say it wasn’t Jesus-centered?
Great question, and I’m glad I had the chance to answer it. Basically, we can make ANYTHING sound like it’s gospel truth when we just pick verses. The key is asking, “does the whole of Scripture support this interpretation”? And also, “what is the result of this advice in my life and other people’s lives?” Because we know that Jesus wants us looking more and more like Him, and wants us pointing other people to Him. If the way we’re acting results in enabling other people’s sin, selfishness, or disrespect, then that advice is not Jesus-centered, no matter how good it may seem.
The sum of that argument is really in these two posts:
That’s what we talked about this week! I hope you have a chance to listen in. And if you’re still struggling with the Love & Respect series (I’m still getting a ton of comments coming in!), a great resource for another way of looking at our walk with Christ in our marriage is 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage.
Are you PeaceKEEPING or PeaceMAKING?
Join me next week when I’ll be focusing on whether our thoughts are holding us back. And I’ll be kind of going off on another rant, too!
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