Can a long distance engagement work? Or do you have to live in the same city at some point?

On Mondays I like to take a reader question and try to answer it, and lately I’ve been doing things a little bit differently. We’ve been answering our reader questions via video! Here’s this week’s long distance relationship question, which I had my daughters help me with:

Reader Question: Can Long Distance Engagements Work?


Reader Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years long distance. We see each other a couple times a year and plan on getting married one day in the future. I am a freshmen in college and he is working full time , various people had told us that in order for us to get to know each other more I would have to move to Texas to be closer to him. The thing is that if I do then I would have to pay out of state tuition while I’m actually getting a full ride scholarship in my home state. Also, he wants to propose with both sides of our family watching; we really want to take the next step in our relationship but don’t really know how to or where to begin, how do plan a long distance wedding & how do you make this relationship easier and less stressful?

 Great question! Katie got married in February after a year of dating long distance, and Rebecca has seen many of her friends date long distance, so I thought this was a good one for us to tackle when we were all together (I really didn’t want to tackle one of the sex questions with my daughters! 🙂 ).

We spoke together at a conference this weekend, and we had just gotten home when we filmed this. It’s always fun to speak with my daughters!

Speaking About Teenagers

And so, before they each climbed into their cars and drove home on Saturday, we tried to give some advice to this young woman about how to make long distance relationships work:

I’ve written a lot more about long distance relationships (and long distance engagements!) on the blog, and here are some other posts that can help:

10 Great Long Distance Date Ideas
If you’re apart, can you still “date”? Absolutely! Here are 10 ideas for actual dates you can take together when you’re not in the same city.

How Do You Prepare for Marriage Long Distance?
If you’re apart, how do you actually prepare for marriage? How can you make sure that you really know each other? Some thoughts here!

50 Conversation Starters for Couples
Looking for things to talk about? Here are some conversation starters to keep those Skype dates fun!

Hope those help!

Now let me know in the comments: Did you date long distance before you got married? What are your best tips?

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