Do you pray for your sex life?
And are you praying selflessly? It may seem strange to pray about sex, but I have to ask–why? Sex is the peak of intimacy, and a gift God designed for you and your husband–what better thing is there to pray for your marriage than an awesome sex life?
Every Wednesday for nine years here on this blog we’ve talked about marriage. But in all that time I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about what to pray specifically for sex in your marriage. So today, for Wifey Wednesday, I’m happy to introduce Donna Mott who has written an awesome post about the 3 simple, but key, things she prays over sex in her marriage. Love what she says!
For most who will be honest, if you have a rocky marriage, sex is the last thing on your mind. Therefore, whether your marital problems started with sex or not, it becomes a big issue or rather the “not having it” becomes the issue adding to marital turmoil.
In my past, I was mistreated and told that a true woman pleases her man sexually no matter how depraved his request may be. There have also been times when I was that woman that used sex as punishment or reward. I’ve also been through the deep pain of divorce. I am happily remarried now. I want to learn from my past and not make the same mistakes. I want to change unhealthy attitudes I have had about intimacy. I also have a very strong belief in the absolute power of prayer. I thought I would share three simple things that I pray over sex in my marriage.
1. I pray for a fulfilling sex life for both my husband and myself.
We all form relationships that are need fulfilling, both emotionally and physically. I want my physical relationship with my husband to be just as strong as our emotional relationship. And when you think about it, you can’t honestly have one without the other. I pray that I can be fulfilling to my husband, that he can turn to me and we can find delight in each other.
Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. Song of Solomon 1:2
2. I pray that my husband will always have a desire for me.
I can’t tell you how I have nearly caused permanent damage rolling my eyes in the back of my head from hearing some women complaining how their husbands are always wanting to have sex. And perhaps I’ve nearly given myself a mild stroke when I have heard them say that the reply to their husband was to stop asking because they just got it last week. I want my husband to desire me, want me, be close to me. How is him wanting you and turned on by you a bad thing?
Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act. Proverbs 5:27
3. Finally, I pray that I will always have a desire for my husband.
I find my husband incredibly attractive not just his outward appearance but I find his character, his heart super sexy. I really have to try to resist the urge to climb on him all the time. And you know what? I honestly pray that this deep desire and attraction for him will never stop.
His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way. Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend. Song of Solomon 5:16
God wants your marriage to succeed. He designed marriage for enjoyment, to create life, and as an example of Christ and the church to bring glory to His name. The bible is not mute about prayer or sex. Both are integral in marriage. Both cultivate intimacy. Why would we not pray about it?
I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. Mark 11:24
If God sees that my spiritual life will be furthered by giving the things for which I ask, then He will give them, but that is not the end of prayer. The end of prayer is that I come to know God Himself.” – Oswald Chambers