Do you pray for your sex life?
And are you praying selflessly? It may seem strange to pray about sex, but I have to ask–why? Sex is the peak of intimacy, and a gift God designed for you and your husband–what better thing is there to pray for your marriage than an awesome sex life?
Every Wednesday for nine years here on this blog we’ve talked about marriage. But in all that time I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about what to pray specifically for sex in your marriage. So today, for Wifey Wednesday, I’m happy to introduce Donna Mott who has written an awesome post about the 3 simple, but key, things she prays over sex in her marriage. Love what she says!
Here’s Donna:
For most who will be honest, if you have a rocky marriage, sex is the last thing on your mind. Therefore, whether your marital problems started with sex or not, it becomes a big issue or rather the “not having it” becomes the issue adding to marital turmoil.
In my past, I was mistreated and told that a true woman pleases her man sexually no matter how depraved his request may be. There have also been times when I was that woman that used sex as punishment or reward. I’ve also been through the deep pain of divorce. I am happily remarried now. I want to learn from my past and not make the same mistakes. I want to change unhealthy attitudes I have had about intimacy. I also have a very strong belief in the absolute power of prayer. I thought I would share three simple things that I pray over sex in my marriage.
1. I pray for a fulfilling sex life for both my husband and myself.
We all form relationships that are need fulfilling, both emotionally and physically. I want my physical relationship with my husband to be just as strong as our emotional relationship. And when you think about it, you can’t honestly have one without the other. I pray that I can be fulfilling to my husband, that he can turn to me and we can find delight in each other.
Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. Song of Solomon 1:2
2. I pray that my husband will always have a desire for me.
I can’t tell you how I have nearly caused permanent damage rolling my eyes in the back of my head from hearing some women complaining how their husbands are always wanting to have sex. And perhaps I’ve nearly given myself a mild stroke when I have heard them say that the reply to their husband was to stop asking because they just got it last week. I want my husband to desire me, want me, be close to me. How is him wanting you and turned on by you a bad thing?
Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act. Proverbs 5:27
3. Finally, I pray that I will always have a desire for my husband.
I find my husband incredibly attractive not just his outward appearance but I find his character, his heart super sexy. I really have to try to resist the urge to climb on him all the time. And you know what? I honestly pray that this deep desire and attraction for him will never stop.
His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way. Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend. Song of Solomon 5:16
God wants your marriage to succeed. He designed marriage for enjoyment, to create life, and as an example of Christ and the church to bring glory to His name. The bible is not mute about prayer or sex. Both are integral in marriage. Both cultivate intimacy. Why would we not pray about it?
I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. Mark 11:24
If God sees that my spiritual life will be furthered by giving the things for which I ask, then He will give them, but that is not the end of prayer. The end of prayer is that I come to know God Himself.” – Oswald Chambers

So educative thank you
Thank you for taking the time to read it.
Love this post! I do pray these things, and this is a reminder to keep praying them!! Thanks for sharing it. ?
That’s cool, Megan!
Our premarriage mentor couple encouraged us to pray together about sex and the whole physical connection before we consummated our marriage on our wedding night. We prayed a prayer together dedicating that part of our relationship (too) for His glory in our marriage. Such wisdom in praying for this critical part of marriage.
we married at 20 sex was great 4 kids when we turned 50 wife said I should slow down now maybe a couple times a month we do it I want it a couple times a week when she does go to bed with me she turns on the tv wow I get depressed and lonely. I never thought about praying about it i’ll start tonight I want her to want me as much as I want her
The Proverbs reference should be Proverbs 3:27, just FYI. I never thought about that verse in this context before. Pretty interesting!
We had sex before marriage and it was good. However, after getting married, my husband does not have the desire to have it with me. This is my fourth year anniversary, but I could only remember us having sex about 5 times. Deep within me, I feel that God is punishing us because we had sex before marriage. I’ll pray from today onwards. I hope that we can overcome this problem together.
Hi, JC–
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I just want to say that I really don’t think God would punish you like that. Instead, I think that taking sex outside of marriage changes the dynamic of sex to something less healthy than what God wanted it to be. God wants you to have freedom and joy in your marriage–not feel the weight of punishment. That’s just my two cents. 🙂 Can I recommend 31 Days to Great Sex? It may be able to help what you’re going through.
JC – My heart breaks for you, as a former wife in a sexually dead marriage, I absolutely feel your pain and will say a prayer for you…
I would also recommend asking your husband to get his testosterone checked- even if he is young. This greatly affects ability and desire in men – and is sometime lost so gradually that men know they “should” miss sex, but they just physically don’t. If this is the case, there are short and long term medical solutions that would help. All the best
Awesome information. God bless.