You did a great job on this post. I too suffered from disappointment of expectations in my marriage. I found ALOT of things made me upset and in turn naggy (or negative) when my husband didn’t do things. Or did things wrong. (In my eyes) most due to chores. Other things due to lack of communication (which lead to bitterness) and left me angry. I was not a fun person to be around…. One day my husband told me something pretty hurtful. He said ” Your attitude really stinks it makes me not even want to come home. It makes me want to stay at work even LONGER”. Those were days he was already at work pretty late anyway…. I really at the time didn’t think I was the one wiTh the problem. At the point i thought that I was communicating about certain things when really I was being negative and naggy. My failed expectations lead to me having a bad attitude. This was just last year. Since then, God has taken my husband and I BOTH on a journey in our marriage and has transformed our hearts, our minds, and helped us to have open, honest, respectful communication, while being able to be vulnerable with our feelings (i’ve ditched the fear that I had) and have become more loving, forgiving, respectful of each other, trusting, and on top of that we have learned what it means to truly have servants hearts for each other! ❤️ When I prayed for God to change my husband… He definitely worked on me first! Lol but in turn changing both of us for the better. My heart and my attitude had to change before changes could be made in my husband.
I love this post. So similar to that part of my marriage journey. ❤️