My dear readers, God made you strong.
It’s Friday, the day when I publish my “Marriage Moment”, a 400-word inspirational thought about marriage. And today I want to talk about how strong a woman you really are.
Sheila’s Marriage Moment: Don’t Forget You Are Strong
Strong. Fierce. Brave.
God made you like that! You are made in His image, and He gave us a job: to inhabit the earth and subdue it. What does “subdue” it mean? Just as we pray: “Your will be done, on earth, as it is in heaven,” we act to bring that which is outside of God’s will into God’s will.
So let me ask you something: what is your primary goal in marriage? Is it to bring your relationship, your heart, and your husband’s heart, into submission to God, so that we all look more like Jesus (Romans 8:29), or is it that your husband treat you well?
A woman recently left this comment on my post about why women often feel taken for granted :
But then when you try to stand your ground – like choosing NOT to spoil everyone– they think you’re just being selfish. When I try to do things differently, my husband gets upset.
She was encouraging entitled behavior in her children and even, perhaps, her husband, and she stopped. And now her husband thinks she’s mean!
Here’s a similar story, that I shared in 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. She knows they’re deeply in debt, but she doesn’t know how much. When she tries to discuss it, he shuts down. “There’s nothing I can do,” she says.
And that’s true–there is nothing she can do, if her primary motivation is to keep the peace and not have her husband mad at her.
But if her primary motivation is to bring her small part of the earth into submission to Christ, and have those around her looking more like Christ, then there’s a lot she can do! She can march down to the bank and ask to see the statements. She can talk to her pastor or a good friend and ask them to sit down with the couple, together. She can continue to talk to her husband, calmly, and say, “this isn’t going away and I’m not giving up until this is sorted out.”
Will her husband be mad? Probably. But what matters more–“your will be done, on earth, as it is in heaven”, or keeping a fragile peace?
God made you strong so that you could help your husband! And it’s not helping him if your motivation is for surface peace rather than for God’s dominion. Get your heart in line with Christ’s, where it’s not about revenge, getting what you want, or one upping anybody. And then be a strong woman of God! Let’s love as Christ did, upholding both justice and truth, as we glorify God in our families.
The underlying verse for 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage is Micah 6:8:
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God.
We’re to love mercy–to be loving, to be gracious, to be kind. But we’re also to act justly–to stand up for what’s right, to stand for Truth. And how do we find that tricky balance? By being humble before God and allowing Him to shape our character and our priorities and our dreams.
I think that’s a great recipe for marriage!
What’s #1 at To Love, Honor and Vacuum?
It looks like it’s all about the intimacy this week! Let’s take a look at this week’s top posts and start the conversation about how we can improve this aspect of our marriage!
#1 NEW Post on the Blog: Reader Question: My Wife Sleeps With The Toddler!
#1 on the Blog Overall: How To Initiate Sex
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#5 from Pinterest: 29 Days To Great Sex, Day 14: When You Don’t Want To Make Love
I Need 144 More Followers on Pinterest to Hit 20,000!
Wanna join me? I’m right here.
I’m Speaking in Childress, Texas Tomorrow Night–and in Tyler on Tuesday!
We’ll be back in Texas next year (and in the midwest next fall and California next winter), so if any of your churches are interested in hosting a Girl Talk, just let me know!
The Gulf Shores Was Beautiful…
Seriously, I never even realized Alabama bordered the Gulf of Mexico. I guess I should have figured that out, but I never really thought about it. But we were driving through from Georgia to Texas, and decided to “play it by ear” and just stop wherever we wanted.
It’s been gorgeous!
I’m blessed to be able to travel all around North America, and I hope to meet up with more of you in my travels!
Have a great weekend, everyone!
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