It’s the last day of 2015!
And what a year it’s been for me. One daughter married. The youngest one moved out. And my husband and I hitting the road halftime to bring my Girl Talk to communities all around North America!
A lot of changes.
Today I thought I’d look back at what have been the biggest posts of the year. I’m going to do that in three parts: The biggest posts on the blog; the biggest posts on the blog that were actually written in 2015; and the ones that I think should have gone bigger than they did (because they were great, and I want to give them another look!).
So here we go!
Top 10 Posts on the Blog in 2015
It was HUGE this month. It’s been huge for 4 years actually. Each year I update it with more awesome items, so be sure to bookmark this post or pin it to take a look at next year! I’ll have a whole bunch of new ideas in it then, too.
Feel awkward initiating sex? Not quite sure how to go about doing it? 10 tips to help you relax, have fun, and show your husband that you actually WANT him!
One of the most important things you will ever do in your life is memorize Scripture. Put the Word in your heart, and then God can bring it to your mind when you need it. Here are 50 verses to get you started. Try it now, at the beginning of the year. One verse a week. You can do it!
Likely the most important post I’ve ever written: what porn does to your brain and your marriage. I’m so passionate about fighting against porn, and I’m thrilled that this post attracts so many new readers, and helps spread the message that porn is not harmless.
My daughter wrote this post for me on a whim, and it went huge. She’s just finished a book proposal on the same subject that my agent is currently shopping around. I’m so excited for her! It’s a great post, that shows that what matters in parenting is primarily relationship. Check it out!
Get away from the screens this year and have more one-on-one time! A list of 20 2-player board games that you can play with your husband so that you get more time together laughing rather than just watching Netflix.
It’s one of the most common reasons women end up at the blog: their husbands doesn’t want sex. Here are 4 reasons why your husband may have no libido, in this first of a 4-part series in how to deal with it in your marriage.
It’s time to get your flirt on! Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you should stop flirting–with your husband! So have some fun with him this year and bring some playfulness back into your marriage.
Sex begins during the day, because for women, sex is primarily in our brains. If our brains aren’t engaged, our bodies won’t follow. But for our brains to get engaged, we have to get rid of distractions. Calm ourselves down. Look forward to it! Here’s how.
If your husband uses porn, you simply must address it. It’s a cancer in your marriage. And if he says, “I’m sorry, I’ll never do it again”, but he won’t confess to anyone else and he won’t let you see his phone–red flag. Here are 4 steps to take to deal with porn in your marriage.
Help me out! Pick your favourite post of these 10 and share it on social media!
Top 5 Posts Written in 2015
Find it hard to let down your guard during sex? If you can’t relax, you can’t enjoy it, and you can’t have fun. Here are 10 tips to help you relax, stop analyzing everything, and just enjoy the moment!
Likely one of my most controversial posts of the year, I argue that authenticity matters in our Christian witness far more than what we look like on the outside. And I argue that real healing from sexual abuse can’t be rushed. Many didn’t like this, but I thought it was important to raise these issues and to stand with the abused.
Relax. Don’t worry about it. Bring some lube. And watch out for beds that are too soft! It’s my top 10 wedding night tips. Be sure to share this with any young women you know who are about to get married!
A reader wrote in with this question: I’m dating someone who is a great man, but I’m just not attracted to him at all. Does that matter? I try to tackle that question–and the comments were really interesting, too!
Does sex seem boring? Are you always doing the same thing, and you want to spice things up, but you’re nervous about how to do it? Here are 10 tips for being more adventurous!
Help me out! Pick your favourite post of these 5 and share it on social media!
5 Posts That I Thought Should Have Been Bigger
Now here are 5 posts where I either really fleshed out some of what I believe about marriage and sex, or I just said something that I think people really need to hear! So if you could help me and share these posts, these in particular I really want to get out there in circulation more!
When I figured this out it was REVOLUTIONARY. Know your green zone and your red zone. Be more adventurous in your green zone. Look for quickies in your red zone! And if you don’t orgasm in your red zone–don’t get down on yourself–or on your husband. It’s just hormones! And that’s okay.
I believe in marriage. I believe the vow matters. But I also believe that the Bible allows for divorce. And when it allows for divorce, it also allows for remarriage.
I have a lot of commenters who, whenever another commenter mentions that they were once divorced, will leave a long, judgmental comment about how “God hates divorce.” I think what I’ve written here is a far more balanced and grace-filled way of looking at divorce.
The biggest tool we have for turning our marriages around is to change the way we think. When I got married and we had problems, I assumed that there was nothing I could do about them. Here I share what I learned–and how God is asking us to think HIS thoughts in marriage–not necessarily to be nicer, but instead to stand up for goodness and truth.
God made women to be fully human, in and of ourselves. We don’t lose that identity once we’re married. A 10-point plea to the Christian community to give women their worth–because we can’t have strong marriages if we treat women as if their identities are only based in their husbands. Join me!
When my son died someone shared a really important chart with me about how grief works. It made the world of difference. Grief isn’t something that diminishes with time. The intensity stays the same–but the time between grieving periods grows longer. When you “get” this, you see that you don’t heal from grief; you incorporate it, and you’re okay. But to expect people to “get over” grief is wrong.
I hope to bring you lots more great posts in 2016!
Happy New Year, everybody!