It’s our Ultimate Marriage Reading Challenge in 2015–June edition!
Most of us want to grow, but life often gets in the way. And sometimes we just need new ideas and a fresh perspective to help us figure out how to do marriage better!
So this year I’m challenging you to read 12 books with me. Last month we looked at how to juggle your role as wife and mom, and I suggested that you read To Love, Honor and Vacuum (the book!). Here’s a great run-down of how not to feel so taken for granted.
I know some of you haven’t read a book in a long time, but remember: it’s just one book a month! And this month we’re going to have some fun!
Choose from these 3 books–and one challenge!–on understanding your man.
Why three books? If I just pick one you may have already read it. And I want you all to have a choice, because we’re all coming at marriage from different experiences, perspectives, and problems.
This is going to be on of the most fun months–and a month you may like to do with your husband. You’ll learn about the differences between you, and you’ll laugh at yourselves together. And since Father’s Day is in June, I thought this month was a good one to encourage you to understand more about your man!
The classic Christian gender differences book–that’s super fun and practical! Pam and Bill Farrel talk about how gender differences impact our communication, our goals, our families, and so much more. It’s a fun one to read, and you’ll find yourself giggling along with them as you see, “Oh, my goodness, I SO do that!” But you’ll also appreciate the heavier parts of the book where they challenge us to rise above our differences and forge real oneness.
Who should choose this book: Anyone who wants an easy–but insightful–read this month, and who may want to share this book with her spouse.
Emerson Eggerichs wrote the classic book Love & Respect, and now he follows it up with a practical book about how to actually communicate when you speak two different languages. If you love the concept of Love & Respect, you’ll love the way he shows you how you can learn to build up your spouse and feel that connection again.
Who should choose this book: Anyone who is finding it difficult to connect right now in their marriage and needs some real help. A bit of a heavier book than the Farrels’ take on gender differences, but really useful.
And now for something completely different! If you’ve never found the “gender differences” talk that useful in your marriage, because you feel like you’re often reversed; or if you want to go deeper into understanding your differences, then this book is for you!
This is not a Christian book. It’s simply a book based on the MBTI 16 personality types, and it looks at how understanding your particular “type” and your spouse’s particular “type” can help you figure out where you’ll tend to clash and what to do to avoid those clashes. I absolutely love personality type stuff (I’m an ENTJ, and I’ve written about that before), and I find this depth of analysis actually really useful. I’m a rather “male” personality type (though they would argue there’s no such thing), but it means that when we talk about gender differences I don’t always relate (though I am such a multitasker and spaghetti person!). But with this stuff I totally do! And I love it.
Who should choose this book: If you love personality type analysis, and you actually know what MBTI means, then take a look at this one!
I also have a practical challenge to go along with the reading challenge I’m doing this month. I’m going to encourage you and your husband to take a personality test together. Stay tuned for more info, but if you want to get started, here’s a good place to take a test now!
What I’ll Be Reviewing in June
This month I’ll look specifically at Men Are Like Waffles and Just Your Type–but choose any of the books to read yourself. Choose the that speaks the most to you, and then together we’ll look at these other ones! When I’m reviewing Just Your Type, I’m going to look specifically at what happens when an introvert marries an extrovert, because that’s one of the most common questions I get about personality.
Remember: one book a month. That’s all it is. Leave it in your purse or your bathroom–you’ll get through it! And you’ll find that if you read one book, on a different topic, every month, you will transform your marriage!
Leave me a comment and tell me which book you’ll be reading–or which book you’d recommend on understanding differences.