You want a great sex life–but what do you if you’re still really shy being naked, or trying anything rather adventurous?
Many of us get into a “safe” rut in bed. We make love in one position which lets us feel intimate, but doesn’t allow for much exploring. Our hands don’t wander. The lights aren’t on. We just do the deed and we’re done!
But what if you want more? What if you want to experience real freedom with your husband, and feel even more intimate? Well, you’ve got to get over some of the roadblocks that can make you insecure! So let’s look at five common reasons that many of us would rather keep his face up near our face, and stop his hands from going too far:
1. What About Fat Rolls?
You secretly hate your body, and you’re pretty sure he must feel the same way. When you bend over you seem to have three stomachs. You have cellulite everywhere–even places that aren’t supposed to have cellulite. How could he possibly want to explore THAT when you’d rather not even look in the mirror?
Over and over again men tell me in surveys that the sexiest thing about a woman is not her body; it’s her confidence! A woman who jumps in is incredibly exciting. On the other hand, if you dive under the covers and try to keep things short and simple, he’s going to think you’re not really into it, even if you are. And that’s not sexy.
You need to realize the power that you do have–because when we see how powerful we really are in bed, our confidence can return! If you understand how wild you can really drive your husband, then maybe your fat rolls won’t seem so significant.
Solution: Play the timer game. Set it for 10 minutes and just explore his body without letting him move. See the effect you can have on him! If you’re really ambitious, reverse roles and see how excited he can get just exploring you.
2. What About the Smell?
Here’s another reason we often don’t like to encourage our guys to “explore” much–we’re actually self-conscious about what we smell like “down there.” I mean, let’s face it–we can’t honestly tell by ourselves. And what if you’ve just had your period, and you’re still spotting a little? Or what if you really DO smell?
It is a little bit different–a guy’s genitals are right there, on the outside. They’re easily cleaned. But us? Nope. It’s all kind of wet and potentially messy.
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3. What About all that Hair?
Here’s another thing that makes us insecure: pubic hair. Why would he want to explore if there’s so much in the way? And the one place we want him to find the most is often hidden underneath quite a bit.
Certainly you can do a full wax, but I’m not a fan for three reasons: First, when hair starts to grow back it can be really itchy. Second, when you wax the hair often has a harder time growing back through the skin and you can end up with ingrown hairs. Not fun. And third, the whole Brazilian wax thing has become popular largely because porn has made it “normal”. That scares me–it’s like it’s trying to get women to look like pre-pubescent girls.
Solution: I like Shannon Ethridge’s tip in The Passion Principles: Simply stand above the toilet with some scissors and clip the hair short. No itch, no fuss, and no mess.
4. What If I Don’t Know What To Do?
You like the thought of exploring more and not just sticking to one routine when you make love, but what if you’re honestly at a loss about what to do? How do you initiate something new? And what in the world do you really want to do?
Sometimes the easiest way to explore more is to think of it as play–not something that needs to be sustained through the whole time (you can honestly get back to your tried and true position), but maybe you start a different way each time.
Solution: Have each of you write down 5 ways that you’d like to make love or 5 things you’d like to do before the “main event.” Put them in a bag. Then each time you make love, pull out a suggestion and start that way! You can always finish another way, after all. But this way there’s no pressure on you to suggest something. You’re just doing what the paper says.
5. What If He Doesn’t Make Me Feel Good?
You’d love to explore, but every time he touches you your head immediately goes to creating a shopping list, because quite frankly it doesn’t feel that good.
We aren’t born knowing how to please the opposite sex. And everybody likes different things! So you have to teach him. I don’t mean correct him or criticize him; but you do have to show him what you like.
Solution: Play the Teacher! One night for 15 minutes you just get to teach and correct him all you like. Even boss him around! Then the next night reverse roles. You may just learn a lot about each other!
Ladies, so many of us lack confidence.
We’re worried about what he’ll think about our bodies. We’re worried we’re secretly gross. We’re worried we’re not that exciting. Stop worrying and just do something about it! Confidence is sexy, and so if you need something to boost your confidence, try one (or all!) of these suggestions.
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Sheila Wray Gregoire has been married for 29 years and happily married for 24! She loves traveling around North America with her hubby in their RV, giving her signature "Girl Talk" about sex and marriage. And she's written 7 books. About sex and marriage. See a theme here? Plus she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.
Great post, full of encouragement! Personally I think taking a shower every morning does wonders for staying squeaky clean, but also taking pride in my appearance by putting on my makeup each day, shaving my legs often, etc.
Yes! So true! Shaving your legs is so much easier in the summer, too–you know that you’re going to be in shorts. In winter I sometimes need to find the motivation. But honestly, it makes a big difference!
I agree. A shower every day makes me feel clean and fresh. 🙂 thanks for the coupon!
I take control and care of my body by drinking a lot of water, eating as healthy as I can and walking a lot.
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I wish insecurity were as simple as you say. There are complexities that create insecurity in some areas that really have no place in marriage. I really want a safe relationship, one where both of us can be open and vulnerable, not just in bed, but on everything. Unfortunately, if there is not openness and vulnerability in the things of daily communication, it’s unlikely in bed either. If you can’t share your thoughts, (either because of childhood trauma or experiences with your spouse), then it’s unlikely there will be true intimacy in lovemaking either.
I see this as a common theme in many blogs, telling women that the insecurity or lack of confidence they feel is all in their heads. It seems to me to be very well-intentioned but it is somewhat simplistic. Maybe it’s just me, maybe the majority of men out there are just like you say they are in your blog posts. But my experience is nothing like what you talk about and it makes me wonder, am I really the only one?
I was married at the age of 20. I was generally quite happy and confident throughout my teens as I was very thin and pretty and received so much positive feedback from friends and boys. I was not allowed to date, so I did not have experience with men but I did have tons of male friends. My relationship with my husband was kind of a courtship, as we did have chaperones, but we did hold hands and kiss. Living in Southern California, I always wore shorts and T-shirts although they were modest. I mention this because it’s not like I was covered up until the wedding night and my husband didn’t know what I looked like. He had even seen me in a one-piece bathing suit plenty of times.
Well on our wedding night, my husband made all kinds of comments as he was looking at me naked for the first time. He said that I was perfectly thin but that I needed to work out more (basically impossible since I had been working out 5 days a week in preparation for the wedding). He also made several other comments about the appearance of various body parts. To say I was in shock does not begin to cover it. Like I said, I was confident, outgoing, and cheerful.
Now I know what some may be thinking. That this guy was a jerk who was trying to play mind games and undermine my confidence. Believe me when I tell you that he was blissfully, obliviously, honest. He was just staring and blurting things out as he thought them. Not cruel, not manipulative, just honest. The thing is, it would never have hurt so bad if he were a jerk. He was innocently expressing his disapproval in a very matter-of-fact way. Some of you with oblivious husbands may know exactly what I am talking about here.
So this has been my life for the past 26 years, and I have to believe that there are plenty of women who don’t feel good in bed because they get the very real feed-back from their husbands whether with looks or words that they are just not that great. Nothing intentionally mean or malicious, just nothing thrilling either. My husband may be faithful and he may love me, but I have never once in my life seen that look of “wow”, and I did know what that looked like before I married him. But at the time I interpreted it as maturity and seriousness. In hindsight, I can see the clues but I believe there was no way I could have read them at the time because of my lack of experience with men and relationships.
Some couples look at each other like they are seeing the most stunning person left on earth. It is so beautiful to look at some older couples and realize that they see something that you can’t when they look at their spouse. Other couples may love each other and even tell each other they look nice, but there is no thrill there.
So, yes, we need to love and appreciate ourselves. We need to be grateful for all of our physical and mental attributes. We need to be confident, but sometimes people only lose their confidence after they have been married for awhile and I don’t think it’s all in their imagination. Is it just me?
Elizabeth–no, that is definitely NOT just you! The truth is that we can tear each other down often much easier than we can build each other up.
Have you ever had a frank discussion about how his comments make you feel? Sometimes that helps–if you give very clear directions. “Please don’t say X, Y, or Z, and at least once a week say something like A”. It sounds fake, but it does help, and many people actually appreciate frank instructions because they are oblivious and they truly don’t have a clue.
Other people honestly don’t care, and that’s a far thornier problem. I talk about that a little bit here. But I do recommend that couples try to have frank conversations, because often we assume “he must know how that makes me feel”, when he honestly doesn’t.
Elizabeth: Your husband sounds much like mine. We discovered, after 15 years of marriage, that my husband has Asperger’s Syndrome. This translates as almost no filter; underdeveloped social skills. Over the years I have frankly told my husband to only comment on my body when he has something very positive to say. Only comment on a new outfit or hairstyle after he has lived with them for a few days; change always rubs him the wrong way. Instead of me saying, “How do you like my new haircut?” I instead say, “I love my new haircut,” and don’t try to force a fake compliment. He simply isn’t capable of saying something he doesn’t honestly feel.
For myself, I have learned that when my husband says something that is socially awkward or potentially hurtful, to assume best intentions. Conversations based on this assumption typically end well, not in the heated arguments we had early in our marriage.
Over the years I have learned to look first and foremost to God for affirmation. I’m not saying that a husband’s lack of adoration isn’t still painful at times, but there is healing and grace available. I have also surrounded myself with people who love to give me pats on the back when I need them.
God has made you beautifully and wonderfully you! I pray you embrace this truth and that your husband comes to understand a better way of relating to you.
Please permit me to ask if he’s a bornagain Christian? Trying to still understand men cause I too have very little experience. No dating while in college and getting out to have a nasty courtship experience with a guy who subtly body shames. I know I’m not thin. UK 14 and US 10. But I’ve never had confidence issues because I get compliments from people till I met this guy. I still till now have not been able to understand how he could tell me he was a bornagain Christian. Or maybe he was just a sick Christian.
I take control and care of my body by exercising every day, eating healthy meals filled with fruits and veggies and getting plenty of sleep.
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Well said! I’ve addressed several of these as well. As for the pubic hair issue, in my own research I discovered a fabulous bikini razor made by Noxzema. It shaves, but not as closely as a regular razor, leaving short, more manageable hair.
I try to exercise regularly and eat healthy…shower everyday too…i don’t wax because that’s just painful…but i do trim and shave and that makes me like i have more control over the cleanliness ‘down there’. 🙂
I take vitamins and eat healthy
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I take control and care of my body by making sure to eat a healthy diet, exercise every day, drink plenty of water, and I do yoga which really helps me stay balanced!
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I take control and care of my body by taking vitamins, getting exercise and eating healthy.
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I get plenty of sleep and watch what I eat.
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I try to take control by taking vitamins and eating well.
I take vitamins.
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I just turned 30, and I’m suddenly finding wrinkles and achy joints. So I’m trying to take better care with good face cream and keeping my feet up at night.
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I take care of myself by eating well, lots of walking and water.
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Being conscientious about my overall health, including my dietary intake and getting enough sleep and exercise, is how I take care of myself.
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we try to go to the doctor every year 🙂
to get our regular check up !!
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I take care of my body by exercising a few times each week.
Ok… I’ve been reading this blog for a while now but wish there more of “the guys” perspective somehow. For many years I have felt like my wife has not “wanted” me and my reaction has not been the best(I have read the related blogs). Recently we have begun to talk about it more and I have changed my attitude, we are communicating more, we do have sex, I know she loves me, and she is making the effort to initiate. But I do have huge insecurity. I struggle with feeling the fact that she, “has to make the effort”.
Here’s the question: we spoke recently and she was trying to help me understand some differences between men and women. The comment she made was… ” I don’t have to have sex to feel loved.” She was trying to explain but I am struggling. Maybe this is a topic for a different blog but it is something I deeply want to understand as it causes me to have great insecurity in bed. We had drifted apart but are becoming closer now. I’m having a very hard time understanding women’s sex drive, desires/needs ( as compared to my own I suppose)
HELP?
Sure do agree Paul about more men comments. We are older couple and age, some minor health issues have made things a little more tough but then my wife has taken to rude comments when sex comes up like oh that ship has sailed. I thinking i have certainly done something wrong i have missed to recognize turn on the all extra nice front only to get no response. Her comments of wanting more physical contact seem to defy her actions. How do we break through that barrier. Coming home from a nice one on one dinner, nice wine, conversation and all she seems content to play solitaire on her phone on the way home rather that play a ‘warm up’ game. That combined with when we do get physical it is ok for me to touch all over but not her thing makes the age and health card ever present and insecurity enter the scene. You know as an older couple 60+ her retired so no work stress, should i be expected to initiate every time and how do I break through the phone games after a nice warm up evening?
I take control by working out 3-4 times a week, drinking lots of water though out the day and getting plenty of sleep at night.
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I eat healthy most of the time and drink a lot of water.
I enjoy a long soak in lavender epsom salt. Epsom salt soaks create a process called reverse osmosis. This process pulls salt and harmful toxins out of the body and allows the healthy magnesium and sulfates to enter into the body.
I take control and care of my body by eating healthy and exercising daily.
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I take time to slow down and meditate
https://twitter.com/mkjmc/status/615147123332526080I take time to slow down and meditate
I try to exercise while watching TV shows or movies, rather than sitting there.
Taking control and care of my body -most important to me is good daily hygiene.
thank you
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I take care of my body by taking a shower every night before bed. It makes me feel so much cleaner. I also shave my legs and pubic hair. I have found that by shaving every other day, my skin does not get itchy. And it makes making love feel even more fabulous. I will also add that my hubby also takes a daily shower and trims his under arms and pubic hair with sicsers and I am very appreciate of that. I am size 18 and have found that the more we explore and the more fun we have the less I am to notice the ‘fat rolls’…. that being said, I have an amazing hubby who loves to try new things and always makes me feel wonderful in bed.
I take control of my overall health by watching what I eat, exercising a few times each week, and practicing good hygiene habits.
With regard to the main portion of Sheila’s post, I’ve found that it’s much easier to be confident in the bedroom when I’ve taken a little time to “prepare” myself. I’m a full-time mom and, let’s face it, it’s tempting to stay in your lounge clothes all day with your hair pulled back; but for me, it’s hard to feel sexy like that. Based on some advice from Sheila that I read a while back, I make a conscious effort every day to be showered/shaved and dressed with a little makeup on when my husband gets home from work. It really makes a huge difference in my confidence! I’m much more likely to say yes if he’s in the mood, or initiate myself! Granted, there are days when the baby is sick/teething and clingy when that just doesn’t happen, but he totally understands and really appreciates the effort when I am able to. It has really made a difference in our marriage!
Sometimes it’s not negative words that have a negative effect on confidence, it’s no words at all. I try to not take it personally, since I know it’s not deliberate…just clueless. I have to just tell him I need to hear words!
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I’ve always been thin but after two kids my mid section is more squishy than I’d like. I recently started working out so that I’ll be less self conscious in bed. My hubby doesn’t mind (and if he does he’s keeping it to himself (; ) but I mind. It’s time to take control!
I walk and drink lots of water.
I take probiotics at night and take digestive enzymes to help digestion. Both those help my overall health.
Always talk it out – part of being confident is being able to talk about your likes/dislikes easily.
I’m working on ME. That’s how I am bettering my marriage. Taking small steps to get healthier and I flirt with my hubby via texts while he is at work.
I take control and care of my body by drinking a lot of water, eating healthy food and no soda!
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I try to get a little fresh air and sunshine every day. Whether it’s sitting in the swing with my baby or walking to the playground with my three year old. I try to get outside and move my body at the same time.
I like to take a long hot bath — it reinvigorates me and makes me clean as well. 😉
by exercising and eating healthy
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I take control and care of my body by making sure to eat a healthy diet, exercise every day, have yearly checkup and drink plenty of water.
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I take control by staying active…walking often and getting the gym. My husband is very into keeping fit, but exercise has never really been something that I got excited about. I was feeling down and lacking confidence and found that forcing myself to start a fitness plan really helped. Once it became routine, I even asked my husband to help me learn to lift weights! So now we can hit the gym together,which is fun AND sexy…having the hots for your teacher really keeps things interesting; ) I also decided that I would be more vocal about what my own needs are, and allowing myself to LOSE control sometimes too. If I let my head be too in control, I over think.
I take control and care of your body with exercise and healthy eating. Thank you.
This past week we celebrated five years of marriage together, and I spent the whole afternoon getting ready for our date night. And you know what? I enjoyed it so much more! I felt pretty and attractive, and my husband kept telling me how beautiful I am. A few days later I put some extra effort into getting ready for church, and again he complimented me several times that day. I’m realizing that although jeans and tshirts are more comfy, putting in the extra effort really helps create a spark. 🙂
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I cut sugar and salt from my diet, take a daily vitamin and make time for myself
Taking showers and drinking lots of water (or trying to drink water lol).
We try to reserve wknds for family time, and work only on week days. Not bringing work home, helps us stay balanced
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I stay balanced with daily prayer/meditation
I take care of my feminine care by going to the gyn every year to have check ups!
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I take control by maintaining a regular exercise routine.
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I take control by maintaining a healthy diet and regular exercise.
I try to control my weight and my diet to take care of myself.
I try to drink lots of water and eat fruit and veggies often. Thanks so much.
I reduced my intake of soft drinks, juices, and sports drinks that are full of sugar, and opt for water, milk and healthier options instead.
I take vitamins and walk daily
I exercise every day and eat lots of fruits and vegetables. I also try to get enough sleep.
trying to curb my midnight snacking
I try to take time out during the day to go for a walk – helps with stress and gets me some exercise!
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drink water, eat organic and healthy!
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I take control by taking care to eat well and get plenty of sleep.
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I take care of my body by eating healthy and working out.
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I love to keep active by working out. It gives me energy and makes me feel better.
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I’ve dropped 5 dress sizes since January
I take care and control by getting some exercise and taking my vitamins! 🙂
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i take care of myself by walking everyday and drinking a lot of water
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I take control and care of my body by journaling, meditating and keeping things in perspective.
I take control by working out at least 3 days a week!
I find time to try to exercise regularly. It is time I need to decompress and stay healthy.
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I take control and care of my body by eating healthy and getting plenty of rest
I take care of myself by exercising 5 or 6 days a week – a mix of low impact aerobics and pilates and Barre workouts.
eatibg healthy and working out.
Moisturize moisturize moisturize!
I am deathly afraid of waxing. But I make sure that I am showered, fresh, and relaxed. And I will say no if I am not in the mood.
I eat well and go to the gym regularly
I had to get over myself and ask the dr the tough questions.
I take control by watching what I eat, ensuring I have some time for myself and exercising.
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i take care of my body by getting plenty of sleep
I try to eat lots of vegetables.
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These are some great tips and thanks for sharing. I take control of my body by eating healthy and taking vitamins.
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I take control and take care of my body by making sure I take my vitamins, drink lots of water and eat plenty of fruits and vegetables.
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I keep up with dr appts and getting myself checked out!
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I take control of my health by eating organic foods.
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Feeling good about myself is something I’ve had to learn over time. I don’t think I felt it until I was in my late 20’s. Nowadays, I exercise, eat right, and feel happy. That is where I’ve gotten in life.
I take control by eating right, drinking plenty of water and getting enough rest.
I try to take control by listening to my body and giving it what it needs.
I took control of my health by quitting sugar and eating whole foods
I exercise regularly and eat healthy.
By taking shower every day and exercising.
i’m practice good daily hygiene and i am also trying to eat healthier as well as exercise
i posted a tweet here:
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I take care of myself by walking two miles a day and drinking lots of water.
I take control and care of my body by eating well, exercising and getting plenty of rest.
I try and exercise 4-6 days a week for 45 minutes to an hour.
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I took control of my body by stop drinking soda and replacing it with water.
I try to eat right and I also bike ride with my family.
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I take control and care of my body by drinking a lot of water and going to the gym at least three times a week!
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I try to take control by drinking a lot of water and walking daily. I also shower daily and the newest thing I am doing is sleeping naked. The freshness it brings has helped a lot with yeast infections and over heating..plus there is just something kind of sexy feeling about my skin touching the sheets:)
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I take care of my body by exercising, taking daily vitamins and exercising!
I totally needed this today Shelia! Im feeling SO VERY insecure after having baby #6 and finding out my husband is into porn again (he is getting help and accountability of his own accord this time, which is a answer to my prayers)….I hate my body so deeply and I know it is unbiblical to feel this way, Im trying to fight the feelings with His help and have victory on my side of the “bed”. thank you for being such an encouragement to many women.
Im not a fan of waxing and the scissors work ok but to get the best trim down there I personally use a mini clipper (like the kind used for hair cutting but smaller) with the smallest guard attached. Do it in the shower before showering when needed.
Good hygiene is a must as well as a healthy diet and as much exercise as I have time for.
try to eat healthy every day
I make time to exercise.
I’ve been married for seven months, and I was VERY self conscious about my body! Especially “down there.” I didn’t want him to even look at me down there or pay attention because I thought it was gross, he’s very helpfully and lovingly helped me see that he loves his “playground”- every inch of it! That helped immensely!
I did find a nifty little razor/shaver that has really helped me tame the beast! My husband appreciates my efforts as well!
I make time to exercise three days a week
I put effort into wearing clothes that my husband finds attractive. Ironically, that is t-shirts & jeans. Normally, I like to wear dressier clothes.
I take care of myself by drinking water (neither alcohol nor soda), eating fresh vegetables everyday and avoiding sun.
My tweet https://twitter.com/AurelieRed/status/623486555890388993
I eat well and exercise.
TWEET
https://twitter.com/aes529/status/623489359606599680
I take control and care of my body by eating healthy and exercising
I have given up soda and drink about 7-8 glasses of water a day.
I take charge of my body by practicing Natural Family Planning Fertility Care — so that I always know how my body is doing.
I take control by eating healthier and exercising more.
I exercise and eat healthy.
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https://twitter.com/thomasmurphy40/status/623597148739903488
I take control of my body by eating healthy and exercising
https://twitter.com/heidiho5152/status/623604243056832512
I I like the lifting of weights for my body.
I eat healthy and exercise.
I try to eat right, exercise, drink plenty of water, taken cranberry supplements and other vitamins such as iron which target more of a woman’s needs.
I take control by getting lots of exercise, eat fresh vegetables and drink lots of water!
I drink lots of water, take vitamins, walk when I can and try to eat healthy. Thanks for the giveaway!
I take control and take care of myself by drinking only water. I cut out sodas at the beginning of the year, and I feel great!
https://twitter.com/Stephanie64030/status/623697011909394436
https://twitter.com/davisesq212/status/623759914972901376
I take control of my body and my health by ensuring I get a lot of sleep every night. I have so many issues with sleep that I finally started to put myself on a tight sleep schedule to ensure I get enough otherwise I get very anxious and my mood suffers greatly.
Homemade meals and staying active.
I try to eat a balanced diet, stay hydrated and get plenty of rest. That seems to take care of most of my worries.
Tweet – https://twitter.com/willitara/status/623781415327526912
I exercise and eat healthy to take control and care for my body. I love to feel energetic and healthy!
eating healthy and drinking water.
i cook at home as much as i can and drink a ton of water
I keep control for my body by taking vitamins.
I publicly Tweeted this giveaway: https://twitter.com/versatileer/status/623920849389813760
https://twitter.com/purplelover04/status/623913524939505664
I know it sounds like a no-brainer and simple, but I go to the doctor regularly for everything: eyes, body, breasts, uterus, teeth, etc. SO many people avoid the doctor because, lets face it, it is not fun. But I choose my health over my comfort and I never regret learning what I need to do to make my life even better.
I tweeted here: https://twitter.com/MsTofuFairy/status/623927940246581250
I have stopped eating out as much and cooking healthier meals at home.
I enjoyed the what about smell section and I try to take care of myself by watching what I eat and drinking plenty of water
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I make sure to get my yearly checkup
tweet https://twitter.com/ChelleB36/status/623991620007014400
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I take control and care for my body by eliminating all white sugars.
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I take better care of my body/health by not consuming so much sugar
KC
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my #SweepstakesEntry tweet:
https://twitter.com/thrincor/status/624000111237033984
KC
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Ladies, you must believe your husband when he says you’re beautiful and ignore the magazines at the check-out line. I frequently tell my wife that she is beautiful. I tell her specifics like, “Your beautiful blue eyes drive me crazy!” I am being genuine, and I tell her at times when I’m not trying to get anything.
Yet she constantly feels like she isn’t beautiful because she compares herself to a PhotoShopped magazine cover with great lighting design (I’m a lighter by trade; I know what lighting can do). Forget the world’s view of beauty. If your husband thinks you are beautiful, believe him! If your husband loves you, he is looking past the bulges and stretch marks that worry you.
Hello, I am getting married in 6 months and we are both virgins. I am uncomfortable with waxing/shaving down there although I do trim. My sisters and close friends make fun of me and think it’s gross, but I feel a lot more comfortable that way- in fact, when I do shave I feel even more self conscious of all the red, irritated bumps in that sensitive area and it hurts to walk and wear panties (and I’ve tried everything to make that better, I just have really sensitive skin!) ? Do guys really like it bare down there? My fiancé is a wonderful, strong, godly man, and he has told me over and over again how beautiful he thinks I am and how he can’t wait to see all of me on our wedding night, but I don’t want to gross him out if he’s expecting a completely hairless wife!
That’s a great question! And, honestly, I’m sorry that you have to ask it. I think it’s something your generation is dealing with that previous generations really didn’t have to–because there wasn’t that expectation. I think the important thing is that YOU feel comfortable, and you feel like you can sustain whatever you do. And I think it’s okay if you don’t shave. I really do.