So I am sitting in the New Orleans airport with exactly 18 minutes left of free wifi. So I shall have to make this quick! I hope to add pictures when we transfer planes in Houston!
My husband was at a medical conference in New Orleans last week, and Katie, my 17-year-old, and I came with him. I spoke twice (in Lafayette and in Kenner) last week, and we went on a swamp tour, explored the French Quarter, ate some amazing food, and had a great time.
But all of us are left with a heaviness. Much of the French Quarter is beautiful, but we managed to hit New Orleans right at the party time for St. Patrick’s Day, and, to be frank, it was a big drunken mess. One night my husband and I went in search of food at 10:30, after one of my speaking engagements, and it was busier than it usually was at 6:30. And it seemed like everyone was drunk.
And one evening we went to the Red Fish Grill on Bourbon Street (AMAZING food), but to get there we had to pass the Hustler club, several strip joints, and some other unmentionable places. One store had a T-shirt emblazened with “I support single mothers–One dollar at a time!” Outside a strip joint we saw a woman who obviously worked there, smoking, but wearing what she likely wore on stage (which was just about nothing). And she looked so haggard.
Most of the women walking around wore clothes that were so tight they weren’t even flattering (seriously; Katie and I thought the whole French Quarter could be a What Not to Wear episode). We saw a guy standing on TOP of a car as it snaked through the streets, and then, when he was about a block ahead of us, he decided to moon everybody.
Voodoo stores were everywhere.
One store had a sign that said “Haiku for Abandoned Ghosts”. We puzzled over that one for quite a while.
I know that sin exists in the world. I know that much of the world sees “partying” as fun, and sees the chance to let loose in New Orleans (or Vegas) as the highlight of their year.
But if that’s so–then how shallow is most people’s lives?
Katie and I had a lot of talks this week about how empty it must be to go to a Bachelorette party where you start drinking at 2:30 in the afternoon, and likely won’t even remember it the next day (she’s planning a spa-at-home party for her sister’s Bachelorette bash this summer). We talked about what it must be like to pick up a stranger in a bar. We talked about how alcohol and relationships don’t mix (in fact, large quantities of alcohol don’t mix with much at all).
It’s interesting how different New Orleans is from the rest of the state, which is very conservative. But New Orleans has a history of the occult, nominal Christianity, and slavery. Perhaps it’s no wonder that it’s become so hedonistic.
It’s easy to feel superior–like “we” are so much better than “them”. But instead today my overwhelming feelings are both sadness and gratitude. I have a great heritage where I was raised to want something more. And God reached out and got a hold of me at a young age, so that this kind of lifestyle was never appealing.
Instead I have love. I have fun that I can remember. I have a husband I love, and I don’t have to live the lonely life of the bar scene. I have a family all around me. And it’s because God got a hold of me and helped me to make good choices.
This world needs that message–that there is something better, far more fulfilling, than partying. I don’t know how to help people see, but it is so necessary.
That woman’s face outside the strip joint will haunt me for a long time. Jesus loves her. Yet what are we doing to help her?
Despite parents who did all they could to raise me right, and despite that became a Bourbon st. party girl. Pray for them, and pray for them often. It took a long time to realize I was better than that…that I deserved more than cheap relationships where I was used instead of cherished, abused instead of loved. I’ve been with my wonderful husband 12 years…because of my past, I led him to sin and we had been toget her just 4 months when I found out I was pregnant. But he and my son led me back to God. So Pray For those girls, as people prayed for me.
Preach it, sister. I’m involved with a strip club ministry in Indianapolis, and it truly is one of the greatest blessings and heartbreaks in my life. The women on the outreach team go in every other week and take small gifts to the girls and just talk with them. They don’t preach, they don’t pry & prod & try to “figure the girls out.” They go in to listen about their days, their kids, their frustrations, their jobs, their financial situations – anything the girls feel comfortable talking about. In short, we go in to love on them in a very practical way. There is no greater moment than when one of the girls says she wants out, comes to church, and begins surrendering her life (career & all!) to Jesus Christ.
Practical love is exactly that – practical. I think we over complicate loving those who are lost in very dark circumstances. We don’t have to have all the answers the first time. That’s a lie straight from the pit of Hell. We need to be able to give an account for the hope that is in us (1 Peter 3:15), but I don’t think Jesus ever expects us to have all the answers the first time. Believing that we have to is a great way to talk ourselves out of doing anything. Listening goes a long way.
Well said, Hannah.
Sheila, thank you. This is an area I don’t often pray about, but know I need to.
Monica, I am so happy you were able to overcome your past. God’s mercy is able to bring beauty out of the ashes. I appreciate you saying that your parents “raised you right” as best they could. I think that is every parent’s biggest fear. But free will has been given to all of us and if our children choose a path of sin, we can’t lose hope, but instead trust in Jesus to bring His lambs home. May God continue to lead your family.
I’m 42 years old and I have yet to set foot in a strip club, I have yet to get drunk and I have been to bourbon street maybe twice in my life and then it was with my wife. I can’t say that its a life style I desire. Louisiana’iens in general is good people and will give you the shirt of their backs (no strip joke pun intended).
Haiku with abandoned ghosts is an art show by Demond Matsuo–he does collages that are pretty amazing looking.
“God reached out and got a hold of me at a young age, so that this kind of lifestyle was never appealing.”
This is my testimony too, and I’m so very, very thankful! Lovely words Sheila. xx
After reading this Sheila it made me think of a really powerful ministry that was started in our town small town, Waco, Texas. It’s called Jesus Said Love. http://jesussaidlove.com It’s a ministry to help women in the sex industry to escape. I’ve heard them speak a couple of times and am overwhelmed with their courage and their dedication.
My heart broke as I read this…
Sadly, I found out that my wife is involved in an open affair, and she makes sure to point out how wonderful her “intimate” life with her partner is. This blog has been a tremendous help to me. I love my wife and I forgive her for what she has done, but she still intends to file for divorce.
It just seems as though our culture sees sex as…as something fun and exciting to do with qnyone, practically no strings attached. My heart aches with each passing day, knowing what has taken place.
All that I have ever wanted in my life is true, godly, faithful love and companionship. I still pray that God would bring my wife back to me, but it does not seem as though this will happen. And if it does not, my prayer is that He would allow me to have true love in my life someday.
We really have to guard ourselves against the deep, dark sectors of this world. Ashamedly, although I have never been into a strip club, I used to have a pornography addiction; key phrase “used to”.It is so saddening that women (and even men in some cases) are degraded, belittled, devalued, and objectified…all so that someone can make money. “…the love of money is the root of all evil…”
Please forgive me for my scatterbrained comment. My thoughts are so foggy these days…and the nights are restless…
I know that I have asked before in other posts on this blog, and I am sorry for being a “downer”…but if anyone out there has a few spare moments, would you please pray for me? Your prayers are much appreciated. At this point, I am walking through the “valley of the shadow of death”, knowing that even here, God is still good.
Sheila – Your blog is a blessing.
I was in Las Vegas a couple years ago and there were men and women, a few of them grandmother age 60+, standing along the Strip, handing out playing sized cards of nude to scantily-clad women advertising “gentleman’s clubs”. It was so sad to me that these older women who should be protectors and positive mentors to the younger generation.