2014 has come and gone! And so I’ve been busy planning what’s coming on the blog in 2015! And I want to let you in on a few of those things, as well as show you a few more insights into my life.
First–An Offer That’s Gone Tonight at Midnight!
The most common email I get is from women whose husbands use porn. They’re devastated. And for the vast majority, that porn use started long before they were married.
We have to get real about this and fight against it. I firmly believe that one of the best gifts you can give your future daughter-in-law (or son-in-law since 20% of porn users are female now) is to raise porn-free children.
Covenant Eyes is an amazing internet tool that you can install on computers, phones, tablets, and other devices to provide both filtering and accountability. Each member of the family gets assigned an account which can allow them access to different websits. Permissions for a 6-year-old, for instance, you may want to keep much more narrow than for a 16-year-old.
But you can also install accountability software, so that if anyone tries to access a site they’re not supposed do, an accountability partner will get an email about it. You can choose either filtering, accountability, or both for each member of the family.
Each family account can have unlimited devices for all your family members, an it’s so worth it to keep your family safe online and take away that temptation, especially from teens.
This really isn’t something we should assume “won’t happen to a nice family like ours”. All those women writing me never thought they were marrying porn addicts–their husbands looked so normal. But it happens. Please fight for your kids (and your husband!)
9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage Launches in August
I’m so excited about this book. It really encapsulates so much of my philosophy of marriage that I have up on this blog, but mostly it talks about how the religious pat answers sometimes don’t work–and aren’t enough. I don’t mean that the Christian answers to marriage problems aren’t enough–I mean that the answers we sometimes hear in church and on blogs are just a little too “pat”–and I think there’s more to it than that in the Bible.
So this book may be a little jolting for some, but I think it’s necessary. And those of you who have been reading me for a while will likely find yourselves nodding in agreement!
It’s not out until August 15, but you can pre-order now on Amazon and get the lowest price locked in!
The Ultimate Christian Marriage Reading Challenge of 2015 is Starting!
As we make New Year’s resolutions, one of the things that we should be aiming for is a great marriage.
So this year I’m hosting a new online event–the Ultimate Christian Reading Challenge! Every month will be a different theme, and I’ll propose five books you can read. I’ll tell you which one I’ll be reviewing, but you can choose to read any of the five. We’ll have a special newsletter and a Facebook Group where you can interact with the authors of the books and maybe even do some giveaways!
Then, once a month, I’ll write a post about that theme and about what I’ve learned from our Book of the Month.
I’m really excited about this. I’ll be announcing it officially on January 8, with the list of books, but know that it’s coming.
Wifey Wednesday Will Continue–with Link-ups
Every Wednesday for several years now I’ve hosted “Wifey Wednesday” when I specifically discuss marriage. I’m going to keep doing that, and since the linky parties are so far doing well, I’ll keep those going too (I had to stop them for several months in 2014 because people were sharing inappropriate things and I didn’t have time to police it).
If you have a blog and you’re looking to build traffic, this is a great way to get more eyeballs on your posts! Just come on over on Wednesdays and link up.
Guest Posts Will Keep Coming–and You Can Submit One!
It’s hard to keep on top of this blog daily and speak and write new books, so I love the people who write guest posts for me. I’ll still likely run about two a week, and if you’d like to submit one, here are my guidelines.
Top 10 Tuesdays are Awesome–I’m Looking for Ideas
I really like the Top 10 Tuesdays feature I started this year, and I’ll be continuing that. But it’s always hard to come up with good ideas. So if you have an idea for a top 10 post, leave it in the comments!
Reader Question Mondays–I’ve Got a Huge Backlog
I think I’m booking into April already. Here’s what happens with Reader Questions: My assistant Holly gets all the emails that people send me (I used to screen them but I can’t anymore. Everyone’s problems were weighing really heavily on me and taking their toll. I didn’t have time to answer them and I was feeling guilty, and I was starting to get a really skewed view of what was really happening out there).
So Holly reads them and then points them to posts I’ve already written on the subject (I usually have covered most things). But if it’s something I haven’t covered that she thinks may have broad appeal, she sends it my way and it gets scheduled.
Unfortunately, you likely won’t hear from me for a while about it. I do try to write answers as quickly as I can, but I just have so many in the queue right now. If you have a question, though, you can always send it here.
New Ebooks in the Works
A number of you have asked, “Where can I get your parenting advice all in one place?”, and until now I haven’t had an answer. But I’m putting together my favourite parenting posts in an ebook right now, and I hope to launch that around Mother’s Day.
So there you go! That’s what you can expect on the blog this year. I’m so grateful to all of you, my readers, and I appreciate you coming back day after day to see what I have to say and to leave encouraging or thoughtful comments (I always love those!)
What About Sheila Personally?
This is going to be a BIG year of transitions for me. As of September my husband and I will be empty nesters. I’m proud of Katie for moving on, but we will miss her! Every morning we go for a walk and we talk, and now I’ll be home alone with just my cup of tea. Here’s what I’ll be missing (my two girls who will now both be gone):
The upside is that I’m planning more speaking tours now that I’ll have more flexibility. So I’m looking at Chicago in September and Australia (Brisbane/Melbourne) in October, along with Texas (February, already booked), Louisiana (March, still need several engagements), and Arizona (April; looking for one more church to host me!). If your church wants to be included in any of these, just email me.
I likely will have another 2 big announcements about what’s going on with my family, too–but you’ll have to wait on those!
I’m going to take a few more days off with my family, but I’ll be back next Monday.
So I wish you all a very Happy New Year’s with your family! I hope to keep providing you with some godly insights into marriage in 2015. May it be a year when you grow closer to God and closer to each other.